<p>^^^I agree.</p>
<p>To the OP, buy a large flag with your college's name and crest on it. Drape it around yourself like a cape and show those haters you mean business.</p>
<p>Oh please! Wear whatever shirt you want to! I have sweatshirts from a bunch of really cool schools that I never went to that I wear all the time! Anyone whose feelings would be hurt because "I didn't get into Yale so it's really mean of Susie to wear her Yale shirt.." needs to get over it!</p>
<p>Everyone at my school from the freshmen to the seniors wears college shirts, whether it's their sibling's college, a Florida Gator shirt, or just some random college that they visited/applied to or whatever. It's no big deal. If someone has a problem with you wearing a shirt from the college of your choice, they're probably just jealous.</p>
<p>I am all about respecting others' feelings. For instance, I have urged people not to babble incessantly about how easy a class is and how anyone with a brain could get an A in it to people who are having trouble passing that class. I have urged people who get As and Bs not to flip out about how horrible the Bs are and how their life is over to people who get Cs.</p>
<p>But there is a point where some people's sensibilities are just way too delicate, and I think that anyone who is upset about someone wearing a college t-shirt needs to get over it.</p>
<p>when i got into one of my earlies, a teacher/houseparent who I'm close with and who's an alum gave me a tshirt with the college name on it, so i wore it to work out the next day, and had a long conversation with an acquantance I hadn't seen in awhile.... found out that night that she'd been deferred from said college and it was her first choice...... Haven't worn the shirt out since
.....I do think, however, that a few weeks after acceptances, when everyone knows who's in where, it's okay, just not right after people find out, when they're sensitive</p>
<p>Heck, in my senior year (and still) I wear t shirts and sweatshirts from schools I DIDN'T get into. And I also proudly wore apparel from the colleges I got into as well. Don't worry about the jealousy this obviously is - you are not "bragging" at all! Be proud of your school and try buying some head-to-toe gear to really annoy them! : )</p>
<p>Well, the OP says that others wear shirts and no one bats an eye, but when HE wears HIS, he gets hostility....gee, could the OP be projecting more than just pride?</p>
<p>His own line- they didn't even APPLY to schools "like his" shows he is arrogant about his school and it shows to many others....THAT is the problem</p>
<p>And if you have to wear a SHIRT to show how proud you are...well....</p>
<p>Child is going to Pton in the fall...recruited athlete. Don't worry...she is #1 in her class and has top 25% SATs for Pton also. When she got in and wanted a car sticker I advised her to think about the other kids who hadn't heard where they are going and are feeling the pressure of waiting and wondering. She agreed and we haven't purchased the sticker yet. Now that others from her class are beginning to hear about their admissions it seems like it will be okay to get one soon. When you are accepted into a top school, it can seem like bragging to others, but the kids still deserve to wear school gear at some point.<br>
I hate to think that high achievers are being "punished" for being excited about their school and proud to wear their college gear. As they say..."if you've done it, it ain't braggin"...:) Not so sure about that, but we certainly have to commend our kids who are doing well and let them shine too!</p>
<p>I get what you mean.</p>
<p>I know a couple of people who like to wear Harvard and Stanford shirts. No one really made a big deal about it. But I have a friend who attended UCLA and some of my friends expressed the fact that they think she's subtly bragging everytime she wears something bearing the UCLA logo.</p>
<p>I hate how lots of non-students wear those kind of shirts, but when someone who actually comes from that school (and actually deserves to wear the shirt) wears it, people think its boa*****l and pretentious? Its such a double standard</p>
<p>Being proud of your school isn't a bad thing. There's nothing wrong with having a little school pride!</p>
<p>I think that wearing your college's t-shirt is totally fine and normal, but don't build it up to be more than it is. Your "I'm proud of myself and I worked so hard!" attitude is totally fair (and well-deserved!), and of course that's a natural rationale for buying the shirt in the first place, but as far as anyone else is concerned, you're wearing the shirt because you own it, it's comfy, and hey, that's what seniors do. The more that you turn this into a "Yay me!" gesture, even if you don't intentionally knock anyone else down in the process, the worse it'll rub your peers. </p>
<p>If you really were just stopped by a stranger and your attitude had nothing to do with the situation, then I'm sorry to hear that...I think that the other person was probably being the less tactful one. That said, if this attitude really is a problem at your school, you might want to take it into consideration, even if you're not really doing anything wrong. I don't see what's likely to be gained by 'proving a point' in this situation.</p>
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is it cruel though? it isn't necessarily "wear the t-shirt of the place you are going!" it's wear whatever college-themed apparel you like/inherited from a sibling/bought while driving through campus this past summer
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<p>"Cruel" is too strong a word, but I do think it's somewhat insensitive. As someone with a college plan, it's easy to say "Well, no one's judging...people can wear any college gear!" but I'm sure that the perspective of some students--those who are unsure about, unhappy with, or self-conscious of their college (or alternative) plans--is a little different. </p>
<p>At my high school, we wore uniforms, but seniors could wear college sweatshirts on Fridays. Like you say...didn't have to be their school...it could be anywhere. My little sister ended up getting rejected from 2/4 schools, waitlisted at the other 2, applying to late-deadline schools, and not settling until June. She generally wore college sweatshirts (from tours, summer programs, me) on Fridays, but I also know that it was hard on her having to wear my "out-of-her-league"-hand-me-downs in order to feel included, especially as all of her friends showcased their new gear. Did her friends have the right to be proud? Of course! But even as an optional day at a school with 99-100% college placement, feelings were hurt. I'm not sure whether one single "college shirt" day would be better or worse. It's also hard to gauge the appropriateness without knowing the percentage of college-bound students at the high school in question (if not near 100%, this event would a bit like an unfair value judgment of seniors' plans). </p>
<p>To clarify, I think that college apparel-wearing is totally appropriate...it's the school's endorsement of a particular day that makes me uncomfortable. I also think it's great to recognize students for their academic achievements, and even let students know where their peers will be heading to school, but again, I think that there are more subtle ways to spread the info. I don't know. I see the point. I don't think it's cruel, but I also don't think it's necessarily harmless.</p>
<p>D wears uniform also. School has one day at the end of senior year where seniors wear their college T-shirts. By then almost everyone has made a choice and they are all excited about their colleges. It is only important that each student makes the best choice for themselves. Most kids have a great college experience and they don't all go to the same school! This is a stressful time of the year for seniors and if you haven't gotten into your "dream" school, it is probably best to keep in mind what others are going through not knowing where they'll attend. D has been very good about this and does not brag at all. I just don't want her to feel that she can't, at some point, show that she is excited just like everyone else! I haven't bought my sweatshirt yet either...:)</p>
<p>And at the one school that is having it next week, WHY? many don't get notified until April...so seems having a college tshirt day this early is for the financially able as they are generally the ones who apply ED/EA</p>
<p>And if you are geting hotile looks because of wearing your Yale shirt, it is HOW you are wearing it, not just that you are wearing it</p>
<p>At my Ds school, it is pretty much an unspoken code to not wear college gear until the first or second week in April....so there is a block of time from Christmas until April when you don't see many college shirts...unless its an older siblings one....after April, they start popping up, but somehow the kids sense that its not nice to do it while others are still in limbo</p>
<p>When we toured schools- Ds bought sweatshirts,,, they wore them to school, etc....but when it was college time for older D, she stopped for awhile...and when she got in EA to her 1st choice, she wore her sweatshirt at home, to the movies, etc, her pride didn't need to be paraded around at school while others were still wating, suffering from rejections, etc...</p>
<p>That is part of growing up, having the common sense to know when you are doing something that has the potential to irritate others and holding off, for just a bit</p>
<p>You should know in yourself that pride....if you can't wait a bit, even after getting hostile looks, because to get those looks, well, there is the possibility that you are indeed sending of snooty vibes</p>
<p>"didn't even APPLY to schools like this" just shows the attitude of the OP...and I can gurantee others sense that arrogance as well</p>
<p>bet if it was another person who didn't talk like that, people wouldn't be so bothered, but if the OPs attitude is that his school is like, you know, all that, which the puts down all other schools, well, he deserves the dirty looks</p>
<p>all i'm gonna say is that there are more important things to worry about than whether or not to wear a college shirt</p>
<p>Jealousy is the flip side of admiration. Most people will react to your achievements with a mixture of the two, in varying proportions. Parents typically react to their offsprings' achievements with the highest proportion of admiration; there's a drop-off in the ratio of pride to jealousy, but it's still typically high. With relatives generally, pride and admiration tend to decline with the degree of consanguinity. Some friends may be "happy for you" and "jealous of you" in equal measures. Rivals may view your achievements with unmitigated jealousy, although that may become tempered with time. (The knowledge that one of my elementary school classmates is on the Princeton faculty is a source of some pride with me, but I'll admit to having experienced a pang of jealousy when I first heard about it.)</p>
<p>Harvard alumni use the phrase "dropping the H bomb" in reference to telling people where they went to college. They learn that the H bomb shouldn't be dropped lightly, less they prompt others to express open scorn. They generally wait until others ask where they went to college, and then pronounce the name of the school as though it were a question: "Harvard?"</p>
<p>Both my daughters knew where they were going before Xmas break (Yes, I have two seniors). One got in on rolling admissions and the other got in on early decision. Holiday presents to both were various articles of clothing from the schools they will be attending. Both are proud of their success as am I and have been wearing the sweatshirts every few days to school. Any response so far has been positive. In fact, it turned out there were a couple of girls who were applying RD to the school my daughter got into ED, and once they realized she had already gotten in by seeing her wear the sweatshirt, they reached out to her for advice on the interviews they were going to have.</p>
<p>This is a good way to find out who your TRUE friends are...</p>
<p>I agree with everyone who said "get over it" this is so silly, of course if someone is wearing a shirt and acting obnoxious that's one thing- but if they are wearing a shirt and minding their own darn buisness then really get over it. Maybe they felt bad when everyone went to prom with a date, or when the captain of the football team got to sign his letter of intent in front of cameras and for everyone to cheer...but hey if someone wearing a shirt is that hurtful to everyone else and they are wearing it with class then maybe we should just ban the shirts...make them illeagle. Much better for them to wear "drink beer?" shirts anyhow. It is time for our kids to grow up and even if someone is being obnoxious...why be more obnoxious by saying something. Be happy with who you are and happy for others that they are who they are
whew....</p>
<p>My D also got in EA, her BF got rejected from the same school...while friend was happy for D, she was also really really sad for herself...
Several kids got rejected over the Christmas break, and it was so sad for them as well</p>
<p>For kids to show up at school in their new gear just didn't happen, those kids that got in took into consideration those that had their dreams dashed....we aren't talking about the same schools even</p>
<p>Its not about banning shirts for heaven sake, its about thinking of others besides yourself, and how they might be feeling</p>
<p>If you are having things go your way, and others are not, shouldn't one perhaps, go gee, maybe I could have better timing in wearing my new gear....</p>
<p>I am just as proud of how my Ds handle great things as they are when it doesn't go their way</p>
<p>As for get over it, well, if you walk around without concern for what others might be going through and get a snarky reaction, you deserve it</p>
<p>Just another example of not rewarding the successful because we have to watch out for the sensibilities of others. Why can't we just all be happy for what each of us has achieved? And what a wonderful statemnt for the kids coming up behind you - they, too, can aspire to go to your school. It should be something you should be proud of. When did we stop rewarding achievment? In an effort to be "fair" to everyone, we become "unfair" to others. It shouldn't matter where you got in,wear your shirt - everyone worked hard for whatever school they are going to, and deserve to be proud of it, be it H or the State U.</p>
<p>I think wearing your shirt is OK. Even though it IS to exteriorize your pride. The "I don't dress for others to see, I do it for myself" thing is a false notion that some people actually believe. Now, in my case, if wearing the shirt will bring me problems, make people feel bad, create hostility, etc, then I wouldn't wear it. Simple. You DO have the right to wear it, just like you have the right to enjoy your wealth among the poor, just like people have the right to speak spanish without having some redneck asking them to speak English, just like you have the right to walk through a weightwatchers meeting with your low cut jeans showing your trim waist. You get the point! </p>
<p>I apply this philosophy. If I am a well-liked person that gets along with people, and something I do, that I could simply not do, bothers some of them so much that they'll even tell me about it, then I stop doing it. It's not a life or death thing and if it bothers some, what the heck. Why be CONFRONTATIONAL? Think like a Canadian, a Swiss, a Norwegian, etc and you'll sail peacefully through life (by that I mean centered, peaceful, affable, simple, etc.)</p>
<p>As an example, I once worked at a place where people were lower class. On mondays we talked about what we did on the weekend. I realized that some things that for me were "normal" made them feel bad about their lives. Solution: I didn't say what I did until they LEARNED HOW I GOT TO THAT POINT and realized that it was normal for a part of society. You want to get along, then play along. At college you'll have the chance to wear your school shirt everyday and show everyone there how proud you are.</p>
<p>By the way, congrats for getting into a school that makes you proud. You're going to be a fine passionate student that shows gratitude. Be tolerant to unexpected things. All schools have their downside, but always keep your spirits high, even during the pre-exam deadweeks, because after exam week your spirit will soar again. Enjoy college. There's nothing like those FIRST four years!!!!</p>