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<li><p>All through adolescence, I was depressed/dissociative, which left me functionally asexual, as well as overall generally avoidant socially. I had...urges, but I never seemed to develop a romantic/sex life outside of my own self (I say that at the risk of sounding crass). This attitude followed on all through high school, my gap year I spent at home, as well as my first semester of my freshman year.</p></li>
<li><p>Never even been as much as kissed. As of now I only know 4 girls by name on campus. Overall I still have to fight back that prepubescent attitude of being "afraid of girls."</p></li>
<li><p>My campus doesn't have a very social atmosphere, and my opportunities to meet girls on campus is limited. Not to mention I don't know many of their names, and I feel asking them this late in the semester would be creepy.</p></li>
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<p>So...help. This bud finally wants to bloom, but being surrounded by people who have been blooming romantically/sexually for years already is leaving me more than a bit intimidated. I have no idea where to even start this...something I should have been doing years ago.</p>
<p>I know people who have fake IDs to get into clubs.
Not that I am suggesting you do that but I am just throwing that out on the table, you know… just randomly saying it…</p>
<p>If you want help pickin up girls watch Crazy Stupid Love and pick up some Ryan Gosling tips</p>
<p>The most important thing for you to do at this point is to get to know some girls as friends. It will make you more comfortable around girls in general and will make it easier to ask one out when the time comes. </p>
<p>Search out opportunities to work with groups of people. Clubs, study groups, volunteer jobs, religious or political groups, etc. The key is to find groups with people your age. Once you get to know some girls in a group you can work on finding opportunities for informal one on one time. Don’t try to go too fast. An invitation like “I’m going over to watch the football game. Wanna come?” or “I’m done with my work for now too. Wanna go get a cup of coffee before we have to get back?” is non-threatening and gives a girl an opening to show she’d like to get to know you better.</p>
<p>When you don’t know someone’s name, introduce yourself. Even if they should know your name just say something like “I don’t know if you remember me. I’m PilotInTraining.” Nine times our of ten the other person will give you their name back. I’m terrible with names, so I use this trick all the time.</p>