<p>So, I'm entering my freshmen year of college for the first time and I'm incredibly excited (and nervous). A topic that has be breaching my mind for a while is Guys. I know I sound like some poor, naiive little girl but I don't have much experience in the dating department (never went out or dated a guy/don't have a BF/never been kissed/100% Extra Virgin/ You get the picture). I was a bit of an ugly duckling in high school and incredibly introverted, so in result I never ventured out much in search of a relationship. I was just too chicken back then. But during my senior year I decided to make a change: I lost a ton of weight, worked a bit on my appearance, and tried to break out of my shell. And even though I've changed a lot, I'm still uncertain when it comes to the opposite sex and how to approach them (or be approached by them) in college. I'm not looking to get involved in a string of late night "hook-ups" but I also don't wanna tie myself down. So does anyone have any advice or tips on interacting with guys (especially for a girl like me). I'm completely clueless when it comes to boys in college. I repeat: completely clueless.</p>
<p>Just relax and don’t overthink it.
That’s really my only advice. Guys aren’t some weird species. They’re just like us… with extra body parts. Just be friendly and see what goes from there. </p>
<p>Fwiw, I’m far from being super attractive and I could give two hoots about what I look like. I’ve never had trouble getting attention because I’m very comfortable in my own skin and it radiates when that happens. Just relax and have confidence in yourself. DO NOT go looking for anything. Things just happen. </p>
<p>The problem arises when you think of them as guys/a potential boyfriend. Go in thinking just like you would with another girl. Let things develop on their own if it is meant to be.</p>
<p>You sound just like I was! As the posters above have said, just treat them like you would anyone else. It might be a good idea to start socializing in a classroom or other academic setting where you won’t attract the wrong sort of attention - I went to exactly one party at the beginning of freshman year and gained a bit of a stalker, as I didn’t realize I was giving out the wrong impression of my intentions. Try to hang out in mixed-gender groups so you don’t feel too intimidated to start, and so you have an out in case things go wrong.</p>
<p>Remember to be safe and don’t let the newfound freedom and newfound you get you into situations you wouldn’t normally get yourself into. It can be fun getting to know the opposite sex, but you have to keep your own limits in mind, and make sure you enforce them.</p>
<p>Id say making guy friends (platonic) is the best start so you’ll get comfortable taking to guys and won’t feel nervous.And well since you’re a girl you don’t really have to worry about approaching guys unless you want to,but guys will come to you reguardless.Although some with just stare/look at you a lot and glancing it doesn’t mean he’s not attracted.He could just be shy or clueless about girls.</p>
<p>Just watch out for the wolves. Most of us guys at this age just wanna get it in. Most decent ones will make their intentions clear, others might lead you on for a while and then jump ship at the first sign that you wanna make things serious.</p>