<p>**SORRY this is really LONG and kinda boring
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<p>First of all I am posting this from my phone so please excuse any texting language or any mistakes in this post, kinda hard for me to type long things on using my phone. * Now seriously please do not make jokes or say something really unnecessary.** Really because I don't have anyone else to turn to but random people online :(*</p>
<p>First here is some basic info on me: Black 15year old obese teen hoping to lose weight this year. Current 10thgrader. Was raised mainly as an only child even though I have 2 brothers 1 sister and 1 "brother". Now I will start...</p>
<p>Okay when I was little my older "brother", hate him so much I don't really consider him my brother, went crazy. I am going to call him M. So like I was saying when I was little my mom was paying for everything for him and he wasn't doing anything so she stopped; M went crazy and tried to kill me and my mom and told off my whole family. We got away and charges were pressed I didn't here anything about M for years. </p>
<p>During the summer before my freshman year he came back and slowly became more and more like someone who was living at the house. Around the start of school he disappeared again (him staying around ruined my WHOLE summer). </p>
<p>Now to the present. M is back in my life and he is fully moved in my house!!! He moved in, in the summer (again ruining another summer) and is currently still living here. So its been like 7-8months!! M is very rude and doesn't respect anyone or anything. He just now got a job in December (yeah really late). I hate him being here when no one else is, mainly because he I am pretty sure he goes through things. In fact I know for a fact he has been in my room while I was gone, because I have the only working printer in the house and I saw he printed multiple things on different days when no one was there and I forgot to lock the door. He brought a car not to long ago but it is broken now so he uses my mom's and has no intention to fix his even though my mom asks him about it everyday and threatens not to let him use her car. </p>
<p>He thinks he is all that, and uses my mom who is easily manipulated! </p>
<p>*Anyway now to the main issue * He is trying to go back to school (his plan all along). He said he is going to move out the 15th but he has said he is going to move out multiple times.... Idk if he will since he is getting more soil cal (talking on the phone, going to parties, ect). He talks on the phone really loud every night and I feel way to weird to do anything while he is here which is why I wait until he goes to work to do stuff (4-10pm). Every time I try to do something he is on my mind and my hate gets in my way of doing stuff! </p>
<p>*So does anyone have any advice for me. PLEASE and THANK you *</p>
<p>a.If hes going back to school have him take a 2nd semester community college class or
b.just convince your mom that hes an adult-- should be able to fend for himself.
c.If you have friends try and get him a job and place to stay somewhere else
d.initiate conversation about looking at apartments other approach to getting him to move out
must:Get his car fixed.</p>
<p>How dare you go against your older brother? He is both your elder and your superior and you dishonor not only your entire family but your ancestors as well when you disparage and insult him in a public forum. You bring great shame to your family name and tarnish the reputation and honor of your own family. Know this–you are forever dishonored. Never again shall praises of your name be sung; never again shall your village recognize your clan as part of the community; never again shall your family be invited to partake in the festivities of the Mid-Autumn Festival and the Lunar New Year.</p>
<p>Know this–you shall never be forgiven. You shall eternally be known as an unfilial son.</p>
<p>I would go with GoalBates on this one. If you feel uncomfortable about talking to your brother about this, approach your mom and tell her what’s going through your mind. Maybe a solution will come out of your conversation with her?</p>
<p>And to Kironide… I’m sorry you have nothing better to do than ■■■■■ on a college forum (and, based on your stats and lack of extracurriculars, obsess about school).</p>
<p>I have high grades and don’t like to do many extracurriculars, ergo, I obsess about school? I put near-zero effort into academics (I started one homework assignment at 9PM and intend on doing the other two at school tomorrow) and I am ‘obsessed’? It’s not my fault it’s so easy to get A’s and high scores, or that I prefer to spend time with my family instead of participate in activities I don’t enjoy for sole purpose of building a superior college application.</p>
<p>You, on the other hand, actually took the time and effort to look through my post history to find my stats and ECs . . .</p>
Yeah tell me about it
a.Yeah he is going to some community college I have never heard of but know it exist and he is really trying to get in
b.Wish it was that easy many people have tried to tell her this but she doesn’t listen
c.No all my friends are job less and don’t have connections like that
d.Umm no we NEVER talk and I refuse to start!! </p>
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I tried talking to her but she gives me a sad speech about how he feels and that he is going to move out soon. </p>
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Yeah I am its hard though…especially when I have to watch my self because he could be staking me at that second (he has done it before this year)</p>
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What?</p>
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I would kinda need an adult to help me with that and i doubt my mom would let anyone help me with that…</p>
<p>Your situation is upsetting but there’s no reason to give up, I dont want to give any words if advice, as I may not be as experienced, but I really recommend you ask the parents if you haven’t done so already, wish you much lucky and CCer support!</p>
<p>Why don’t you try talking to someone at your school about what is going on?
If your brother tried to kill you, and you dont feel same at home, they have to do something to help you.</p>
<p>@Daxolo5 WHOA. I know what kiro said was very disrespectful and unnecessary, but you, sir/madam, are being racist. As an Asian female, I am extremely offended. </p>
<p>… I have a great urge to rant about how disgusted I am at your post, but everyone deserves a second chance. One thing I have to say is that I LOATHE racist people. </p>
<p>La fin.</p>
<p>@wesley
I feel very bad for you. That is a horrible situation and your brother sounds like he has some serious issues. He tried to kill you? That’s insane. You should try to get a restraining order, but that might aggravate him more. It sounds like you’re in a dangerous situation. Try not to be alone in the house with him. You never know what might go down when no one is there. If your brother manipulates your mom, there is nothing you can really do about that. I know it’s hard, but you have to talk to someone about it. If you don’t want anyone to know, try calling an anonymous phone line like Kids Help Phone. I’ve never had issues like that, so I’ve never called them, but it couldn’t hurt to try, right? If I were you, I would try to lose some weight. Maybe being more fit would make you happier and would make you feel better about yourself. Plus, you get the benefit of being healthier and stronger, in case your brother decides to attack you again. If you are around 17, then you can move out in 1-2 years. Live in residence at university so you don’t have to deal with everything. </p>
<p>I really wish I could help you Stuff like this makes me so sad. I’d offer you to come live with me (NO JOKES), but I live in Canada lol</p>
Stuff like this makes me so sad. I’d offer you to come live with me (NO JOKES), but I live in Canada lol</p>