Is it creepish to send friend request to your child’s college gf/bf?
Super Creepy
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I think it is, but I have family members who wouldn’t hesitate. My feeling is that if a younger person wants to friend an older person, that should be their move.
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I agree that the younger person should initiate that, not the parent.
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Like others have said, I think the BF/GF should initiate it. I don’t really think it’s necessary to be Facebook friends with them…
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My kids’ BF/GF have friended me. It is awkward when they break up.
One person I know keeps up with a former BF while the daughter does not. I cannot imagine that but they seem okay with it.
My S’s former GF friended me while they were dating, as did my nephew’s former GF (funny thing is, I have never been FB friends with my son or nephew!). In both cases, the guys were dumped, and the young ladies unfriended me right after the break ups. There was never any bad mouthing of anyone … but there was no reason to stay connected as they moved on with their lives. I wasn’t offended.
Interesting, as I am still FB friends with sons 2 prior GFs. The first was from a European country. She shared pictures of her wedding and her baby. The second is an asst prof. I don’t know anything about her social life. I have never shared a word about my son .
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I wouldn’t send a friend request to them. His gf and her mom have friended me at their initiation. They have been dating 4 years so they are just like family now!
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I always let the younger person initiate. And since most of them aren’t on facebook anymore…
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This comes up more with Instagram these days!
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You asked so, yeah, creepy.
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My stepdaughter received one from her BF’s mom, her biological mom didn’t like the idea but stepdaughter accepted it as she didn’t want to offend BF’s family. I agree with her mom but didn’t give my opinion as she is sensible herself, only suggested going with her instinct.
Yes it is. Creepy.
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The only person I have friended after discussing it in person were HS SO’s moms, to share prom pictures. Some I’m still Facebook friends with years later. I will only accept friend requests from their friends after high school graduation, many I’ve known most of their lives.
I worked at a grad school, and I had a strict rule against accepting friend requests from my students. I just didn’t really want to mix business & personal. Once I left, I started getting a lot of requests. I accepted because I enjoy seeing what’s going on with them (they are artists & designers). I never send them friend requests. They really don’t post anything other than their work, although they are beginning to gravitate to Instagram only now.
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Student-teacher relationship isn’t the same as the relationship of parent-potential SO of children.
more cringeworthy than creepish, I’d say. But yeah…don’t do it.