<p>I certainly appreciate this thread.</p>
<p>My DS did not fail any classes, but got barely under a 2.0 so is on academic probation. If he doesn’t get above 2.0 this quarter, he is gone. </p>
<p>We have set our expectations, but have not gone to the point of asking for his login to the blackboard. My DH and I go round and round about how much ‘helicoptering’ we need to be doing.</p>
<p>We both know that our DS knows what is at stake. And we know he is clearly capable. We just worry (OK, I am the worrier) that it still hasn’t sunk in what the consequences are. (Although, I also worry that he does know and may fail simply to come back home where his GF is. During the winter break he talked about transferring home, but we told him he needs to stick it out. He thinks that by coming home, life will be as it was during HS, and we try to tell him that even his HS friends that stayed home have moved on. Life will not be the same.)</p>
<p>So, should we up the ante a bit and hover a bit more, or should we just let him know that we love him and we know he can do it, and let him take it from there?</p>