My mom never dyed her hair, but it never got fully gray - it was salt & pepper. She was in great shape & always looked amazingly put-together. She was Chico’s chic. I don’t have her sense of fashion in terms of what looks best on me. I wish I had inherited that.
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I’ve always been jealous of those who seem to effortlessly mix and match and own their style.
It took me way too long to accept I just can’t wear any style that happens to be on trend. Once I figured out (and accepted!!) what styles work for my body type I became much happier with the way I presented myself. I’ve tried to gently pass that along to my D so she learns that at a younger age than I did.
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Ha, this is my boot camp story. I was very proud of going for a run before the outdoor class. The instructor had a big smile on her face as I jogged up so I assumed she was going to praise me for my extra effort. Instead, she exclaimed, “MLH! We need to work on your speed!” Sigh. That’s why I never exercised as a kid, too many gym teachers like her.
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My male perspective — condescending cracks about a guy’s age, weight, and hair status are part of the bonding experience. LOL
But as best as I can project, I don’t view the “woman of your age” comment as having anything but positive intent.
“Wow, I want to be like you when I grow up!”
“You did well for a woman of your age!”
Both refer to age. IMO, the first one is a compliment, but the latter has a condescending whiff to it.
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Well, bless your heart.
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I’m teasing. No real offense intended.)
It is interesting learning the different perspectives of posters here.
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I appreciate the conversation about the intentions of the young boot camp instructor. My reaction was surprise, hurt, then humor. My 60 yo old self can still out plank and out burpee the young folks, but nobody would mistake me for a twenty something—probably not a forty-something! Darker eyebrows, a cute outfit, would I pass then?
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Our PT often says she wishes her dad, who is same age as H was as fit as H is.
Our D has always had her own fashion sense and can mix and match her wardrobe to create whatever look she has in mind. Sometimes she will even borrow an item or two of mine but always looks well put together without looking like a cookie cutter.
My older relative likes to imitate/wear junior fashions. As she’s in late 60s, I feel it sometimes looks “off,” and yes, is aging.
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As usual, I agree with @abasket. Male here. I essentially wear shorts year round. I also wear leggings (Nobull, Nike, Vuori), typically during the winter, so I can run in the winter. I personally don’t like the products for males at Lulu.
I’ll also wear leggings in the gym too, because the gym that I belong to doesn’t have a great heating system and no A/C. However, the compression of the leggings also helps on squatting days.
I’ll wear sweats, slim fit, during the winter on cold mornings to walk the dog for example.
I got sheared yesterday (haircut) and as I told my barber, I look at least 3 weeks younger. 
Long hair on older males looks old IMO.
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For those that tint their eyebrows who have brown hair. . . do you try to match your hair color (whether it’s dyed or not dyed)? Or go lighter? Darker?
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My eye brows are slightly darker than my hair. I’d say my hair is medium brown, but I use dark brown tint on my brows.
There really is a double standard for men as we age. My husband recently let his beard grown in. There’s quite a bit of white in it and he got so many compliments. It does look kind of hot.
The general advice on eyebrow color is that it should be a shade or two darker than your hair. I have been using medium brown on my brows, but now that my light brown hair has been highlighted I need to switch to a lighter brow color.
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Just saw this on Twitter and immediately thought of y’all.
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Thank you for the tip, but I actually wear Vuori joggers around the house and for…. jogging. I think casual clothing like sweats on guys are fine for grocery shopping, getting a coffee, etc.
But I wouldn’t wear them to a decent restaurant. Now the lululemon pants that look like business casual but are stretchy fall into the business casual category for me. I personally don’t consider them athleisure but maybe some do. I’ve tried various lululemon pants many times over many years and they’re just not quite right for me - wrong demographic by about 10-20 years, I think.
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I’m in trouble.
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My husband and his brother wear the lululemon commission classic fit
They are my husband’s pants that I insist he wears when we have somewhere to go. They are acceptable to him as they aren’t too slim fitting.
He would rather wear his Eddie Bauer flannel lined jeans and chinos that are 2 sizes too big all winter but sometimes I need him to look a little nicer.
Golf shorts in the summer. I have trouble finding clothes for my husband that look nice, aren’t wrinkled beyond and wash up well.
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Is it only my husband that gets irrationally attached to a select few items of clothing and will wear them till they are thread bare? (Ok, I admit to doing that also but catch myself from time to time and re-air the rest of my closet, the rationale being if I haven’t worn something in years I should give it away, but if I wear it once every so often it can remain in my closet’s tight real estate market—my husband has long been evicted). I occasionally buy him things to wear that I think he’ll like and they remain unworn for at least two years before entering his rotation. Of course we make fun of him but, if anything, this quirk of his has gotten worse with age. He doesn’t have any sensory processing difficulties and is one of the most laid back people I know.
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I think if you have friends who’s style seem effortless, it’s probably not without effort and probably not inexpensive.
If I see someone who just looks great, usually their clothing is expensive and tailored. Their jewelry is real and the hair is manicured.
It just looks effortless
Or they are really pretty
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I can’t remember the last time I bought clothing for DH, decades for sure. Neither of us buys clothes for the other even as gifts. DH’s side of the closet is simple: polo shirts by color*, tees by color*, jeans, a couple pair of khakis, and multiple khaki/black shorts. Most of the year he’s in a polo or tee and shorts, pants if someone died or is getting married.
*By color, I mean navy blue or gray with an “M” or full-blown “Michigan” on it. I mean, why buy a plain article of clothing when you can get your alma mater plastered on it? If it says “Michigan,” it’s dressy.
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I think I could rock milkmaid.
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