For two years, I’ve been so sure that I wanted to go to a certain college. I applied early decision and was extremely excited this year, but ever since I got accepted, I’ve been experiencing severe anxiety and fear of the commitment that I made, especially since it’s a college overseas and nowhere near home. I did deposit at the college at the urging of my parents, but thinking about it scares me all the time now. Does anyone have any helpful advice or similar experiences?
Overseas where?
Some feeling of buyers remorse is normal. It’s a big step to move overseas, especially when it’s your first move out of your parents’ home.
If you could tell us where you are from and where the college is, you can get more helpful answers.
Where do you live? Is the college here in the U.S? Or is it abroad someplace?
Many people get last minute jitters after a college choice has been made. The school was your top choice for a reason. Take a deep breath and stop second guessing yourself.
Just remember that you are not committed for four years. You are committed for one semester (or maybe two if you want to give yourself a little more time.) If it doesn’t work out, you can transfer.
But I also agree that ‘buyers remorse’ is common and you shouldn’t let it spook you. You’ve made a choice with the best information available and its probably a good choice. Go in expecting success.
Can you tell us why this college was your first choice?
Start reading more about the college and events that are happening and research that is being done and remind yourself why you loved this college.
Did you join the College’s Class of 2019 Facebook page?
I agree with N’s Mom. Good advice for sure.
Thank you all for your comments! I’m starting to feel a lot better about this, and I do believe that it’s just fear of change and commitment. The college is in the US, and I live about 14 hours away by plane.
@MYOS1634 The college was my first choice because of its academics, atmosphere, and because I have visited it before and I already have friends there. And yes, I did join the page! Maybe interacting with the other people on there will help too…
@thumper1 It’s in the US
If you already have friends there, you don’t have to worry much. You also visited the place. So your fear is just psychological, about leaving the family you lived with all the time so far. You get the comfort of home if something wrong happens. But college is not only makes you learn things on academics, it also teaches you how to be a man, an individual, take decisions which are import for you in your future life, career. If you still feel jittery, 14 hours of plane ride is not that bad if you or your parents can afford, in case of some emergency. All the best and be brave. you are not alone, there are many students who started their life out side from their family and 99% of them did very well in their life.