For some reason I can’t help but feel I made a mistake in my decision. I really do not like CU nor do I like being so close to my parents. I don’t really know what to do, should I just calm down, or should I contact the school. I already made my deposit for housing and everything, so I’m really lost.
I can’t know if you made a mistake, but if you ever do make a mistake, just start from there, and make the best steps forward that you can. If you focus on making the best steps forward, you can do that whether you are starting from a mistake or not - it won’t need to matter that much.
By having the CU action in place, you can decide if there is a better move. Even the deposit is a move already made. If something else is better, then it is better and will just require its own deposit. If you’re not sure what you want, at least do not freeze up and eliminate all your moves. Don’t contact the school unless you are making a superior move compared to CU. Perform the fewest and most reversible actions (cancelling now is harder to undo than waiting longer) when in doubt.
It’s known as buyer’s remorse. And no matter what you do in your adult life–pick a school,buy a house, a car, marry someone, have a baby…it’s there. Just keep moving forward and strangely enough it all works out in the end.
It’s May and buyer’s remorse is in the air. You don’t like CU but you haven’t even started yet. You don’t like being close to your parents but you haven’t moved away and ignored their texts yet. You also haven’t spent a weekend at school away from your parents with a group of freshman all in the same boat - scared, unsure, unhappy and ordering pizza - all bonding in a very special way.
I don’t know what’s best for you but I do know life is complicated. Your feelings are very normal - even if it feels like everyone is soooo excited about their choice. Also I do think you should share your feelings with trusted adults and friends to get support in your transition to college particularly if the feelings don’t subside. And you should do the best you can to look for the positives at CU and give it your best shot. Then you’ll know you’ve tried your best and you’ll have no regrets no matter what your future brings you. Stay calm and carry on…and commit to do your best.
Musicamusica has a point. Buyer’s remorse is a well known phenomena that strikes many students at this time. It is simply doubting the choice you made, that there may be a better one that was out there. Take a deep breath. Start to engage in the school, the new student Facebook page, getting ready for the fall. If you stil feel the same way next year as a student, you can take action then.
If you are absolutely sure this is wrong, explore any other options before you cancel the one you have. After all the deposit is only money and sometimes it is refundable. However, most of the other schools have probably closed out their classes and gone to whatever wait list they have. There may be some options left but you do not want to go to a worse situation just on doubt. There must have been something that had you apply there. Look for that good thing again. Start taking the steps toward the school and see how you feel. Even if you are physically close to your parents, you will be busy as a music major and that may not be a factor. The good news is they wil be able to see your performances. I wish I had been close enough to the DD to see all of hers… See how you feel after you take some of the steps to becoming a student.