<p>I feel as though my entire floor enjoys hitting the frats and who knows what else every night.</p>
<p>I don't, really. But I consider myself really social...and yet I'm finding myself alone in my room a lot because everyone is either a) at a frat or b) huddled together in a room smoking.</p>
<p>So I've been feeling kind of down about college lately...I miss all my friends at home and having trouble making new ones...I guess I'm kind of picky? (I don't just get wasted with people and subsequently call them my friends)</p>
<p>Anyone else having difficulty adjusting to college life? Or am I alone? Possibly.</p>
<p>I can’t help you because I’m not in college yet, but I feel you. I’m not a drinker or smoker, so going partying and getting hammered isn’t my thing and never will be.</p>
<p>Maybe join a club or something? Pick something you’re interested in and maybe you can find friends that way. </p>
<p>YES. YES YES YES.
I feel the exact same way! Lol.
I am a very social person but am feeling sorta down too!? Wt.f haha
Except for the fact that I’ve moved all the way across the country over the past year or so and, well, it’s hard to maintain friends lol.</p>
<p>Uh, same here. I’m not really into frat parties or smoking so I feel really antisocial sitting in my room staring at the computer. But I love going out with friends everywhere… just not parties! Which hall are you in?</p>
<p>This is welcome week, I am going to say that in a week or two this will not be nearly as rampant except on Fridays and Saturdays (maybe Thursday and Sundays, depending on people’s schedules).</p>
<p>I guess it really helps if you have a floor that all become really good friends that hang out all the time. A lot of people also go out to dance and meet people instead of drinking as well.</p>
<p>Joining a club is important - a lot of clubs are like ‘frats’ in that they hang out (don’t necessarily have to drink), huddle together, party - ex. a cappella groups, sports teams, etc.</p>
<p>Just tag along with the people going to frats for a night and see how you like it. It’s probably nothing like you guys are expecting it to be. And it is true that a lot of people will stop going to frats after the first couple weeks - they will probably continue drinking though.</p>
<p>And where is this 6 people floor? Are you sure that doesn’t mean 6 guys the rest girls?</p>
<p>It’s in Foothill and I moved him in. It is really six guys total, no one else. I couldn’t believe it. Two triples, a lounge area, and one bathroom that looks like my bathroom at home. A tub with a shower curtain and a toilet. We were stunned.</p>
<p>He didn’t chose it. The units were his first choice but he wasn’t given that. He knows it’s less social, but I don’t think he expected a 6 person floor…</p>
<p>there’s also an 8 person per floor building in building 9/10. Floors like that are either really good or really bad depending on the guys there.</p>
<p>i cringe every time someone says “just join a club”</p>
<p>my experience with clubs so far has been of boredom and resume padders. clubs don’t even meet consistently yet. by the time that you can openly talk to people in your club, it will be the middle of the semester.</p>
<p>find some people in your dorms when everyone else is out partying, introduce yourself, ask them if they want to get something to eat or some coffee.</p>
<p>@Batman17, That’s what my son thought. It’s an interesting group. My son is a very athletic (ranked athlete) engineering major and the ones on the floor don’t seem to be into the same stuff that he is. They seem nice but I don’t know that they will have much in common. He’s been trying to go visit people he knows in the units and stuff. I’m sure he will be fine, but he was shocked.</p>
<p>lol I kinda feel the same way except that I have friends from the summer so that was definitely a good decision. If it weren’t for that, I’d hate college right now lol. I haven’t really made an effort to meet my floor and I don’t really care to because they seem so superficial and they DO party all the time too. While partying was fun in the summer, I’m back to my old self again hah so I dont feel like going out as much anymore. I guess try to attend the events held by your building because those people might be a little more like you. Otherwise join the people who party but don’t drink with them. Take coke or something or just don’t actually drink the alcohol and throw it away lol but yeah clubs definitely should help.</p>
<p>by “take coke,” daynnight means drink soda for those confused.</p>
<p>And you do not have to drink when you go out. There will be pressure to, but it’s easy to just say no. You also don’t have to stay with the people you go up with. Once at the frats, talk to people. There have been plenty of people who don’t drink or don’t drink a lot up there. </p>
<p>After the first few weeks, the number of parties will decrease and so will the people who go out. Have fun, you’ll find your niche.</p>
Pretty much everyone on our floor besides us 3 roommate kids and the RA have gone to frats pretty often. They talk about gettin’ wasted and being knocked out 3 mins after they hit the bedroom.</p>
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Similar situation except no one on my floor I think smokes. Have you tried visitin’ some of the welcome week events?</p>
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<p>^I’m kinda picky too. It takes more than a hi and an introduction to make someone your friend</p>
<p>Excitement over frats wears off after awhile. Don’t expect your floor to be filled with people on thurs/fri/sat nights though from the sounds of it.</p>