<p>So it's my 4th day at college, and I'm already feeling a bit lonely and homesick. Not to the point where I'm hating my time here, but I just feel like this isn't what I wanted to get out of this. I am in a residence hall with a lot of athletes, and due to that, a lot of cliques are already formed since they are teammates, etc. I often walk around by myself, eat lunch by myself, and just stay in my room a lot, although my door is almost always open. My roommate is a nice kid, and social himself, and he tries to invite me to do things, but something about him puts me off in that I kind of avoid wanting to hang out with him. It's probably not the right thing to do, but in all honestly we wouldn't have been friends in high school, and if I had my w, I wouldn't have picked him as a roommate. On top of that homesickness comes and goes, and I try my best to put it off, and not fall into it. I try to avoid picking up the phone and crying to my mom, or wanting to go home. I'm a very social and friendly person, it just seems like the cards aren't lining up for me. To top it all off, my school has a facebook page where I've added/had a few convos with some of the people in my class, and when I ask them to hang out on facebook chat, they often say "sure dude, I'll hit you up" and never do. I understand that it may be a bit weird to hang out with someone who you've only seen on facebook, but it doesn't help my situation.</p>
<p>I went through the exact same feeling my man. Don’t worry, once you make 1 friend it all starts rolling… Just be determined to talk to anyone that you would deem friend material and be willing to strike up some conversation. Once you get some friends the homesick feeling dissipates greatly. Not sure if you’re this type of person, but if invited to go out to a party, GO! Even if you don’t drink to stupidity they are great places to loosen up and meet people.</p>
<p>Go get a meal with your roommate. You don’t have to do anything else. He’s trying to get you out of the room, and I think that is a good quality for him; anyone else would have stopped trying.</p>
<p>Agreed with aunt bea. My roommate was someone I wouldn’t have been friends in high school with, either, but she became one of my best friends and we are still very close, 2 years after graduation. </p>
<p>One thing I forced myself to do in college was simple: “say yes.” Unless it was clearly dangerous or illegal (um, most of the time), I said “yes” to every invitation I could. Going to dinner, going to a play, playing pick-up basketball, etc, you’ll end up having fun in more cases than not. </p>
<p>As far as the google chat thing goes, try making definite plans with someone instead of just asking them to hang out. For example, instead of saying “hey man, you want to hang out some time?” say “hey man, you want to kick a soccer ball around tomorrow at 6/grab dinner with me and my roommate/work on the problems for calc together?” It’s easier for people to agree to concrete plans rather than have an ambiguous invitation hanging over their heads.</p>
<p>First thing to remember is this: college is not high school.</p>
<p>You’ll make friends in college that are nowhere near the types of friends you made in high school. I’m a nerd, pretty studious, and really shy. My high school friends were the same. In college, I didn’t expect to be making friends with serious gamer boys, the local fashion model, skaters, or nationally competitive volleyball players. But I did. College is a chance to meet people you never would have met otherwise. It’s a chance to step way out of your comfort zone and learn something new about people. Give your roommate a chance. He wants to get to know you! So do what aunt bea said and just go grab food with him and hang out with him once. Or go to an event he invites you to. </p>
<p>Also remember that college is what YOU do with it. So if you want to hang with someone you meet on facebook, you hit them up. You want to meet people, you go out and do it. No one’s going to make friends for you and drop them in your lap. You’ve got to go out and chase them. </p>
<p>The homesickness will pass, but the best way to fight it is to keep busy. Stay around people and stuff to do so that you’re not alone with your thoughts. </p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>I think you should spend a bit more time out with your roommate. You might not have anything in common with him but you might find that once you get to know him better you might have more in common and just being out and about gives you the chance to meet more people. You might meet some people through your roommate that you find you like quite a bit. </p>
<p>Many people do not end up being friends with the people they meet on college facebook type of sites once they get to school.</p>
<p>My friend from back home lived on my floor my freshman year(we requested each other but didnt get the room) and his roommate really came off as kind of the type of person that would have messed with me majorly in high school. He had a girlfriend who was a knockout, all that jazz. My buddy from back home who was always a goody goody like me in HS, turned into what I imagined Joe Bob(not his real name) to be. He became cocky and mean spirited, screwed girls over, skipping classes to blaze, you get the picture. We had numerous falling outs over the year, but finally over the summer he had to withdraw from school bc of a 1.4 gpa he apologized and told me he appreciated me for being there and being a real friend, unlike his frat brothers. Back to Joe Bob, he spent all his time going to see his GF(who lived 2 hrs away) and didnt meet anyone and wound up clinging to me all semester before he transferred. And I let him, because the moral of the story is at one point or another you need someone to lean on, he might have bullied me in HS, but HS is HS, everyone regrets what they did there. Let your roommate take you out, he seems like a great friend!</p>