<p>good advice to re-evaluate in Feb. and then decide. same boat here … </p>
<p>Thanks everyone for your responses. Still feeling the same way I did when I made this thread. Any further advice is welcome. Feeling a lot of regret and concern. </p>
<p>I feel for you. But you noted many positive things in your original post (roommate, classes, campus). That tells me that the situation is not hopeless. I think you WILL find your way and be happy. IMO, you are using way too much bandwidth trying to decide if you made the right decision and whether you should transfer. Stop that. If you spend too much time thinking “should I stay or should I go” you will not be able to embrace where you are. Make a commitment to where you are. Fully embrace it. Find just one or two people to hang out with. What about a study group? Try forming one. What about the campus newspaper? Those students always get really close to each other. Also, next semester you will have a new set of classes with new people who might click for you. </p>
<p>What you are feeling is NOT by any means unusual. It takes time. Especially for someone who is an introvert by nature. </p>
<p>You also might want to consider talking to someone at the campus counseling center just to sort things out in your mind. This is exactly the type of thing they are expert at. </p>
<p>Overall it sounds like things are going pretty well - you don’t have a room mate from hell and you generally like your classes. What would you want different at your “dream” school? What is it you don’t have at Vassar exactly? Are you really just missing one really close friend there? Would that make a difference? Also, are you taking loans or is your aid money you don’t pay back?</p>
<p>There is so much good advice on this thread and I ditto all the sentiments. 3 weeks is too early to make transfer decisions. As stated earlier, many freshmen, my D included, felt exactly the same way, but it just takes time. No place is perfect; embrace the good fortune you have going to an amazing school. You will be just fine.</p>
<p>It’s been a couple of months since you originally posted about this. Has anything changed about your feelings? </p>
<p>It takes time to adjust to a new environment and new people. Keep doing what makes you happy and trying new clubs and social activities. I’m sure you’ll find your place and fit right in!</p>