<p>So I go to school 22 hrs away from home (by driving) and so far I'm doing really good, but I feel like I jumped into this whole college thing. I'm from the Midwest and go to school on the West coast and I don't really like it here.
(Please don't me for this)
In 9th grade me & my best friend decided we where going to go to the same college together. I wasn't really sure where I wanted to go to school, but my friend wanted to go to the West coast. In 10th grade I wanted to go down south b/c I have a lot of family there, but here I don't. Junior year my best friend moved to Louisiana... Make a long story short I let my friend talk me into coming out here, and she ended up going to college in Louisiana (her mom would only let her apply to Louisiana schools) Now I know to make my own decisions and not to follow anybody else's dreams but my own. Which is why I came to the conclusion of transferring back to a school only 6 hrs away from my home where I know people. </p>
<p>The only problem is my family and boy friend's family were so proud that I came out here for school and I don't want to let them down for transferring back to the Midwest. I wouldn't be transferring back b/c I have no friends or b/c I have bad grades (I actually have all A's and a B right now) but I would be transferring b/c this school is too easy, they going to raise the tuition more than I would of paid back at home, and I just feel like I jumped way to early into this whole college thing.</p>
<p>I guess what I want to know is. Would I be letting people down if I transfer back after my freshman yr? ... Would I be considered a quitter even though I will still be in school just closer? </p>
<p>Don’t worry about how anyone else will feel, worry about what’s right for you. Your family and friends are proud of your school because it’s your school, if you move closer, they can be proud and supportive of that school as well. Especially since you say the current school is easy, I’m assuming the one near-ish home has more challenging academics. I don’t think you’ll be judged for wanting to attend a different school. And tuition will be cheaper back home, I’m sure your parents will appreciate that.</p>
<p>If you’re serious about transferring, even if you haven’t made up your mind yet, do a bit of research now. Figure out when applications are due, and if you’re eligible (does the school accept sophomore transfers, and any required coursework). If it’s not due soon don’t worry about it and keep enjoying your current school, if it is soon you might want to put in an app so you have options at the end of the year when decisions come out. There’s no need to be hasty with a decision like this, if you’re spending the next year at your current school you might feel differently about transferring after a few months.</p>
<p>For what it’s worth, I have a hard time seeing your parents judging you because you were looking for (1) a more challenging school that was still (2) six hours away from home and (3) saves them money! Your description made it sound as if you wanted to drop out and become a professional couch potato or something. Honestly, if this is the move you want you make you have nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn’t sound like you are losing anything in terms of money, independence, social life, or academics. </p>
<p>I would just straight up ask the parent whose view of you means the most (not to say the other’s doesn’t matter, but you know what I’m saying) and ask them if they’d be disappointed in you if you transferred. I’m also pretty sure I’m going to transfer after this semester to a school closer to home, and I honestly cried after I got off the phone with my mom when she had said that she was so proud of me no matter what school I went to or if I transferred, because I was still going to college and working hard and holding a job. Heck, I’m tearing up a little right now thinking about it. Your parents are probably so proud to see you going to college and working hard to do well that they don’t care where you are, but if you’re not sure, I’m certain they’ll be happy to tell you so!</p>
<p>What is so bad about your current school?
What is different about the new school?
You say there are people you know at the new school…are you just following different people?
What is the cost difference?
Do they have your major?
Will you still graduate in 4 years?
Have you visited this new school?</p>
<p>These are things I would want to know if I was your parent.</p>
There’s no need to be hasty with a decision like this, if you’re spending the next year at your current school you might feel differently about transferring after a few months.</p>