I transferred to Temple for my sophomore year of college and it was really hard for me to make friends. I met many people but I haven’t formed any long lasting friendships yet. I have a few close friends but they are from my high school. I’m pretty disappointed in myself because a whole year at temple went by and I haven’t really met new people. I mean I have, but not like formed any close bonds yet. I know it takes time, but I only have two years of college left and I’m wondering if it’s just too late for me. I haven’t joined really any clubs so yeah I know that is a problem but I guess I was just really focused on what major I should choose this year that I just didn’t spend too much time on the social aspect. Is it too late for me to join clubs my junior year or get more involved? I’m also taking a few summer classes at temple, but it is kind of hard for me to make friends with people in classes, because when I talk to people in my classes it’s like okay great bye and we just go our separate ways… and I doubt I’ll have any success with that over the summer. Has anyone had any luck with making friends in the summer? I’m just worried since like when you are a junior, you basically have formed a group by then and I’m afraid I’ll just graduate without really having a group and hating myself for it. It sucks because I really wanted to enjoy college and it’s especially hard when you 1) transferred 2) have anxiety issues 3) hate yourself. Basically, I’m just looking for people who had a similar situation like this and what your experience was whether you were a sophomore transfer or junior transfer or a person who has just had a hard time making friends or a person who hates themselves. Thanks.
@homesickasf It is never too late to add some new friends to your life. If you have not already done so, you should seek treatment for your anxiety (and possible depression). Temple has counseling available, or you could seek help off campus. A more positive outlook would really help, since a negative vibe puts up a barrier to potential friendships. Joining clubs or service activities (volunteering time to help others can be a very positive experience:)) are great ways to find others with common interests.
2 of my kids suffer from anxiety and found the counseling center at their college to be a big help. It is also important to get enough sleep, and plenty of exercise. My kids are regulars at the gym and take yoga, Zumba classes, etc. which are very helpful, too. One of my kids also recently added some medication to help with her anxiety and it has really improved her situation. Her other supports (exercise, counseling, meditation) helped, but not enough. Don’t give up, you can improve your situation, too!
Hi @homesickasf ,
I am sad to hear that you have not made many friends. Making friends is a difficult thing to do especially as a transfer student since many friends groups often form starting year 1. As the above poster, I would look into counseling services. It is never too late to get involved with a student organization. The student organization I was a member of always took students in regardless of their year or major. Do you like sports? service? Join a club based on your interests. I know this is weird to do but you could even mention to the org you are trying to join that you are relatively new and looking to meet new people. My friends and I will be around for the summer at least even though we graduated so if you need someone to grab lunch with or just chat with do not hesitate to reach out!
Keep your headup. My friends that I am closest with now are ones that I actually met my junior and my senior (this past year) years.