<p>I'm 18 and I've never had a crush or even dated before(obviously) in high school. Well it's just that in my high school, there are no guys that are my type and I don't find them "attractive" or "cute." So..I'm a little worried that I won't find a bf in college. I know it's kinda stupid to be worried cuz there's a person for everyone right? Anyways, do you think I should be worried or soon I'll just find that person that is right for me? What should I do?? I'm attending UCR this fall. Are there decent looking guys there? ;)</p>
<p>Don’t worry, it’ll happen. Just be aggressive, please. Girls seriously need to be more aggressive, because we aren’t either. Having my girlfriend ask me out was what started the relationship, and 9 months later I’m glad she did.</p>
<p>Yah, honestly to the guy below, there’s some kind of oddity in your situation but no worries. You’ll figure yourself out in college.</p>
<p>if you’ve never had a crush by your age, that’s pretty weird.</p>
<p>This board seriously attracts the socially awkward.</p>
<p>yeah I know it’s kinda odd cuz I never had a crush and I’m 18. I guess there’s never any guys that I find “attractive” at my school. But I am willing to bet there are ppl out there that never had a crush til college right?</p>
<p>What’s your type?</p>
<p>I’m not really sure since I never had a crush.
I think it’s Asian guys, but I don’t think it’s Chinese guys. They’re not cute… haha</p>
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<p>Nah. Your standards must be ridiculous.</p>
<p>I still think they’re are ppl out there though…whatever.</p>
<p>If you’re expecting to find your own Edward Cullen you shouldn’t hold your breath.</p>
<p>However, if your standards are reasonable and not based on all of the Disney and literary dribble you’ve probably been exposed to your entire life, your chances of finding a boyfriend are much better. I have friends who met really nice, attractive guys that they’re very much in love with their freshman year after never having had a boyfriend before. Another friend of mine did not fare so well because she was waiting for a man with a perfect body and the heart of a saint.</p>
<p>It’s really weird for someone at ur age to have never had a crush on someone. Not even on a celebrity?? If it hasn’t happen now, I don’t see why it would happen in college…</p>
<p>haha no my standards are not high. I just want a nice, intelligent, honest and a good personality sort of guy. I don’t care about that the guy has to have a perfect body or have to rich or something.</p>
<p>Yes, I do have celebrity crushes…but not like guys in my school.</p>
<p>You say you are more into personality rather than look, right? But in your 1st post you said “I don’t find them ‘attractive’ or ‘cute.’”</p>
<p>First you need to make up your mind on what u want. If u want a nice guy that u have things in common with, start by joining clubs you are interested in and get to know a few people. </p>
<p>If u want nice body and such, go to your school’s gym just to do some exercise. That’s where all the fit, buff guys hang out. You can pretend to have no idea what to do and ask them for help then just have a regular convo. Who knows, one might end up asking u for your # lol</p>
<p>Yes, I am more into personality than looks. When I said I didn’t find any of the guys at my school "attractive or “cute” I meant that they weren’t like my type. But…I do want to date a cute guy. I just think for me personality outweigh the looks in a guy.
thanks for the tips though haha.</p>
<p>chicks always say that, but a good looking guy will seem to have a better personality than he does.</p>
<p>Do you need to be in a relationship? </p>
<p>If you find someone, great. If not, life moves on. It seems like you’re putting too much emphasis on being in a relationship.</p>
<p>Have any guy asked you out and you said no? I mean, you should give him a chance if someone asks you out. To get to know his personality :)</p>
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<p>To be fair, guys do this too.</p>
<p>Honestly. I’m 19 and going into my sophmore year and I’ve also never dated anyone. However, I have never let it bother me because really at our age who needs a man? LOL. J/K Seriously though, I was only moderately attracted to any of the boys in my high school, mostly because they were all idiots. It also didn’t help that most of them were white and I wasn’t, and the few black boys their were, were the ones who had no focus-a major turnoff for me. And for my freshman year, I was mostly focused on adjusting to school. I’ve made some great friends, male and female, and I see how stressed my guy-crazy friends are, and I just don’t want to be like that. It hasn’t happened for me, mostly, because I haven’t allowed it. I’m not aggressive to guys because I"m really not interested in finding a bf, I personally don’t feel the need at this point in my life. Though it sucks to be behind most of my peers, but for me this is a concious decision. </p>
<p>As for you, I think you’ll find someone if you look. Plus, going to a different place with different people will help.</p>