For all you perfectionists out there

<p>I am one of them, but my problem is I don't want to be. What do you guys do to teach yourself that being perfect is NOT POSSIBLE. haha my prob is basically with academics. But the good thing is I have learned that an A is an A. annywayyss any suggestions to simmer down a bit?</p>

<p>Hmmmm.... unless you're really obssesive, then I can't see why you wouldn't want to be a "perfectionist." Apparently that's not the case, though, judging from your writing.</p>

<p>What exactly would, in your terms, fall under the physcological category of perfectionism?
;)</p>

<p>I read some where that most perfectionists have some kind of OCD. I am one and I don't have any problems with it.</p>

<p>Says the perfectionist.</p>

<p>Ok, I am not a perfectionist, but my sister is.
Ask yourself, am I having fun accomplishing the 99 instead of the 93? How much is it really worth. Would my time be better spent entertaining myself or the rest of the world, and trying to become an unattainable idea? Sometimes is good to be a perfectionist in academics, if you really want that val spot, but the key is becoming more of a big picture person, and stop worring yourself thin with the details.</p>

<p>Pay someone with a C Average to slap you in the face until you come to your senses.</p>

<p>I'm an awwwwful perfectionist. However, I'm also a huge procrastinator...put the two together and you have someone who puts off homework until the last minute and then stays up all night to make it perfect. Bad combination. haha</p>

<p>Well, I can claim validity to your statements that perfectionists have some form of OCD. Let's just say that I have some disorder, to be vague. :)
What do I do about it? Nothing, really. I'm stuck in this cycle where being a perfectionist makes me feel solemnly elite.</p>

<p>ah, miss independent, I'm right with you. </p>

<p>Much of my procrastination stems from my fear of failure, and then when I finally get around to doing something, I want to make it perfect. </p>

<p>My english teacher last year had a poster up:</p>

<p>"A paper is never done, it's just time to turn it in."</p>

<p>my english teacher says that an A stands for anal retentive</p>

<p>lol cowtipper1 :) I am a perfectionist to a certain degree. I tend to procrastinate a lot and stay up the whole night writing papers until they are perfect which drives my mom crazy but it works because usually the papers that I write in one night I get A/A+'s on but occasionally when I don't procrastinate I get A-/B+s. Seriously though sometimes if I feel a paper isn't good enough I don't hand it in until I feel its good enough.</p>

<p>You have to set your true priorities in sight.
For example, you have to notice that getting the A, even for an entire term or semester, has little bearing for whatever you do in the rest of your life. Ideally, we wouldn't even have to go to "school" to get "grades," but since we have to, you have to realize that the "system" is really screwed up. </p>

<p>Secondly, NEVER put competing directly with other students as a priority. It'll only bloat your ego or harm your self esteem.</p>

<p>Thirdly, regularly take a step back to laugh at your mistakes. Because if some of your life's moments were in a movie, they would be funny.</p>

<p>I guess I'm kind of a perfectionist and a procrasinator. And I agree that procrasination stems from fear of failure. I just don't want to do something that i'm gonna fail. But then I'm this wierd kind of guy who's also lazy. I sometimes don't feel like doing something even if I know I can do it. And the stuff that I procrasinate usually gives me an A- at most... so I tend to get A- even for stuff that I'm really good at.</p>

<p>alannancp, that's an awesome poster... I really like that. So true.</p>

<p>greencloth, you have to do that... in 9th grade I got a 44 on a quiz once, and while that's totally not funny given that I'd never even close to failed anything and should have been upset about it, I found it SO amusing. How do you honestly get a 44? I put it on my fridge. =P</p>

<p>wow that's really good advice. I have definately gotten better over the years, but I still feel really down if I make silly mistakes, or if I do something that I know I could have avoided. And greencloth, I admire your advice GREATLY lol because competition has become a part of my life--(I'm trying to keep my val spot at the moment) but anyways, thanks again!</p>

<p>In middle school and freshman year (and, sadly, the first half of sophomore year) I was an anti-perfectionist (to put it lightly).
But now, I've become one. And I love it.</p>

<p>I am nor have i ever been a perfectionist. I learned early that things are naturally full of flaws and that everything does not turn out how one hopes at one point or another</p>

<p>My life philosophy: easy is dull and socially irresponsible, while stress makes you feel important and coffee is lovely. Perfectionism wins...</p>

<p>perfectionism can be exhausting. making sure that every little detail of everything that happens in every second of the day.</p>