<p>What are some of the questions asked on the questionnaire used to pair up roommates? Did your school do a good job matching you with your roommate?</p>
<p>Hmm....this was quite awhile ago, but some of the questions included, "what are your interests?" and "what do you seek for in a roommate?"</p>
<p>Additionally, they may give you a situation, like "your roommate is playing music too loudly. What do you do?" And you will state your answer.</p>
<p>Well, I think they try to do there best, but it's not always guaranteed. Sometimes it's just the fact of living together that sort of divides them. I know some roommates who would have been better friends if they hadn't roomed, and vice versa. </p>
<p>Don't expect your roomie to become your best friend. That's the thing that deludes most people at first, like me. Certainly I know roommates who are best friends, but they're quite rare. You may be surprised at how few roomies go on to room together for four, or even three years. </p>
<p>But then, that is to be expected. Not everyone is capable of rooming together and always getting on spectacularly. I'm sure you have some friend that, even though you love, you would both probably die if you were forced to coexist in a small room for nine months. </p>
<p>My roommate and I got off to a good start; however, there was some friction later, on her part. I had no idea what I had done, and I wasn't the confrontational type, but I remained civilized and simply, not intimately, friendly. Gradually she warmed again and though we are not rooming together next year, get along very well. </p>
<p>So whether the people arranging the roomies together do a good job may sometimes depend on you. My roomie and I have nearly nothing in common externally-wise, but we're friends. </p>
<p>Expect hostility or chilliness between roommates. Expect intimacy and great memories together. After all, when you live with someone, you can't expect but to bond. I've told my roomie secrets I've never told anyone else. We've had hour-long discussions while lying in bed at 12, etc. And remember, no matter what happens, it is NOT unresolvable. It requires civility, maturity, and a willingness to work things out on both sides. It can be resolved even if it's one-sided.</p>
<p>Great post IluvA's!</p>
<p>I know at my D's school, they intentionally did NOT put people together of the same groups. My very casual (wore sweats to an interview after a hockey tourney game) D was paired with a Korean tennis player who was much into pink and frills. The other hockey player was paired with an equestrienne.</p>
<p>Point here is that some schools look to mix kids intentionally to promote community understanding, some may try to match carefully try to build small group cohesion from the start. I wouldn't try to game the system. Just kick back and get ready to meet some people.</p>
<p>Like Forrest Gump said, "Life is a box of chocolates..."</p>
<p>BTW, I asked my D who she was thinking of rooming with next year. She thinks she will re-up with her current roomie. So I guess it does work.</p>
<p>mm, good post IluvA's, that was definitely a mistake that i made coming in to a bs, i was really friendly/outgoing, which was something that my roommate was completely not used to.on the first day i was literally unpacking my stuff in silence as she stared at me reeally hard.>.< i even wanted a roommate switch at one point, but allthe sudden she decided to open up to me and now id say we;re pretty close. its really weird tho,because i was really expecting this fairytale vision of laughing and closeness and such with my "roommate" but now i definitely know what to expect for next yr. im considering rooming with her again nextyr, just cuz im a little wary of the whole "getting to know ur roommate"process after all this. but then again it might be fun to get someone new. ion.^_^ </p>
<p>oh,and one thing. having international roomies arent always a good thing. imean, speciallyif theyre really quiet, theres usually some pretty big cultural boundaries to overcome, i guess. iono, its so hard to generalize tho,because everyone's got a different experience to talk about. :)</p>