<p>"A lot of girls here are too concentrated on academia over men at this university, especially prominent in a female I'm observing (she's a chemical engineering major and has FOUR HOUR LABS twice a week)!"</p>
<p>LOL Berkeley.</p>
<p>Commenting on asillad's post, I don't like taking risk in the dating game. Sometimes there's girls that have interest in me I won't date simply, because I might feel they are just BSing me. So I'm pretty much on guard. And find it hard to really get into a relationship because of that.</p>
<p>good classy girls don't exist... maybe the 50's generation had classy girls, but anymore classy is just an image/facade that means absolutely nothing except style.</p>
<p>They do but you're probably not looking in the right places.</p>
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Try being friends with her . . . ONLY. That allows you to spend quality time with her, get to know her better, and also go out with other girls. When you're tired of the other girls, you'll be ready to pursue the long-term relationship with a good friend.
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<p>yeah, this tends to turn out disastrously. </p>
<p>asillad,</p>
<p>he is probably afraid of what your reaction was because he thinks that he took it too far when in fact he did not and you wanted it. it looks like you'll have to be the proactive one and tell him that you're interested; his behavior makes plenty of sense to me, but maybe im just strange.</p>
<p>I'm telling you, take your ****ing clothes off. If that doesn't work it just wasn't meant to be.</p>
<p>Asillad, from what you describe, it seems like he's into you, he's just too <em>geeky</em> or <em>nice guy</em> to show it. He wants to communicate to you but doesn't know what the hell he's doing, doesn't want to show emotion, doesn't want to show he's a sexual being (some nice guys do this for some reason, but its common). He's lost in figuring out how the hell to attract you, especially since your a friend, and of course he's trying to "play it cool" and pretend like he's not interested at times, like some guys tend to do. Which of course is a wrong approach, but anyway just be more direct about showing him you're attracted and want something more. Stop questioning and reading up on stuff, of course you're confused, or course you're nervous about approaching him, hell now you know how guys feel when coming up to girls their attracted to. Just go for it, and you'll find out what happens. Psyche yourself up, and DO IT. Don't make up anymore excuses.</p>
<p>Guys pretty much have a consistent, steady standard when it comes to judging how hot a woman is. You know you're pretty, you've attracted guys before. So of course he's going to think your hot as well. What guy is going to turn down a hot woman? answer: A GAY GUY, and that's it! Seriously, though, if you're smart and pretty, this probably intimidates him, screws up his mind when he's around you so he doesn't know what move to make, freezes him up, etc. Guys have a fear of rejection and some guys feel if a girl sees that he's attracted to her she'll laugh in his face, or cry "omg, you freak/creep/weirdo!" Which of course is false but nontheless... ANYWAY, show him that your attracted to him.</p>
<p>Trust me compared to the kind of work guys have to do to attract women, your job's a piece of cake. It's foolsmate. So just do it already.</p>
<p><em>Btw, this may sound crazy to you, but theoretically, if you did take your clothes off in front of him (just out of the blue), he'd probably stand mouth agape for about 5 solid minutes (as if he just won the lottery). It would probably be the one of the most memorable moments of his life. But of course you probably think that is socially unacceptable or slutty, but anyway follow the my above advice.</em></p>
<p>"What guy is going to turn down a hot woman? answer: A GAY GUY, and that's it!"</p>
<p>"if you did take your clothes off in front of him (just out of the blue), he'd probably stand mouth agape for about 5 solid minutes (as if he just won the lottery). It would probably be the one of the most memorable moments of his life."</p>
<p>haha, so ****en true</p>