<p>so i have this 'friend' who i met in high school. We've both since graduated from university. I've known him for a number of years and everytime he has a g/f he ignores me. I'd email him, send him facebook messages and nothing. I'd call but he'd talk about maybe 2-3 minutes, say hes busy with his gf and never bother calling me back. </p>
<p>Everytime his gf leaves him i know i could expect many calls from him. This has happened 3 times so far. I've always just gone with it but this time i'm not so sure. His serious g/f left him and nows hes crawling back to me. </p>
<p>hes giving me a sob story about how much he values me and how he has few other friends. </p>
<p>A lot of people do this. Maybe not quite to that extent, but when people get in relationships they often ignore their other friends. I think it can be a lot worse with girls sometimes though. You could always talk with him about it, but I do think that can often be a part of human nature. I have a lot of friends who don’t want to hang out as much when they are dating someone (although I would not want to continue being friends with someone who flat-out ignored me).</p>
<p>(although I would not want to continue being friends with someone who flat-out ignored me)</p>
<p>I was going though a tough time and needed someone to talk to, i figured so i knew him for so long he would make time for me but nope, he didn’t.</p>
<p>Yeah, I’ve experienced a lot of this. The best thing to do is to no longer trust this person as a friend, but be sure not to make him an enemy. Still be friendly, but just stop initiating plans/conversations and expect him to initiate for a while if he wants a close friendship. With many of my “friends” I simply stopped initiating and our friendships totally died (although we remained on good acquaintance terms) because it was really just a one-sided affair. I was okay with that because I don’t need a friend who is clearly not interested.</p>
<p>I mean you kinda have to use you’re own discretion. “Fairweather” friends aren’t really reliable long term friends hence the term “fairweather” placed in front of “friend.” </p>
<p>Personally, I wouldn’t lose sleep over this guy. You guys obviously don’t have a realistic long term friendship, so you minds well just let it die.</p>