Hey everyone, I’m going to school this fall, and I really didn’t want to end up with a random roommate, so I used a Facebook group to get in contact with some people. A dude contacted me from there, and he seems all right. But I’ve just met another dude whom I get along great with, and I would like to room with. It’s only April so it’s certainly not binding, but the other dude just texted me asking when I’d like to go to lunch to talk about rooming and stuff. I feel terrible letting him down, but I know I need to tell him fast so he can keep looking, for his sake. What should I say?
Keep it simple and straightforward - "I’ve found someone that I think I’ll be more compatible with and have decided to room with him. If I find out about any guys looking for roommates that I think might be a good fit for you I’ll let you know. See you on campus in the fall. "
Maybe it’s too early to commit to anyone. Why don’t you all agree that you will spend the next two months (or whatever) meeting a variety of potential roommates, thinking about dorms, etc?
The old standby of blame the parents is still available, so take advantage: “My parents are pressuring me to hold off on making any roommate commitments until I’ve talked to more than three or four guys.”
I ran into that last year - I all but outright said that I was going to room with someone, but then I found another person who seemed a better fit to me. I felt really bad about it at the time and almost just stuck with the first girl, but am soooo glad that I chose the second one. Things are a bit awkward between me and the girl that I left, but I found my best friend in my current roommate so it was worth the temporary anxiety and occasional awkwardness.
Here’s what I said:
Hey____, it’s been great getting to know you. I wanted to let you know that I have decided to go in a different direction regarding roommates. Let’s keep in touch. Seems like we have a lot in common - I can’t wait to get to know you better!
OP, did you tell him yet? @JobeyMcPoulet
Sorry I’m so late to respond! I actually sent the message just hours after posting this. He was very understanding and all is well. Thanks for the advice everyone
I want just about to comment. I’m glad it went well!