<p>catsushi, easy is just trying to make jokes. dont be mean</p>
<p>I apologize if I come across as being mean, but I'm also making jokes. I forgot that sarcasm doesn't translate well through the internet. :]</p>
<p>no, i can see how you would think hes creepy.</p>
<p>If you're worried, contact ResLife and ask if there's any possibility of switching rooms, or if you can put in a request before the year begins (I know a girl who did that b/c she wanted to move out of a triple into a double as soon as space was available...it had nothing to do with her roommates, whom she hadn't even met yet).</p>
<p>If you can't swap out, then just don't worry about this right now. From what you've said, she hasn't been rude...just a little thick/confusing. There's no big reason for you to believe that she'll show up hating you, or unwilling to live with you. There's also no reason for you to explain this to your other suitemates, particularly not in any way that incriminates your future roommate. This could just be a misunderstanding, and it won't make you look too nice if you go stirring up "She doesn't like me!" drama and trying to gain allies. If I were you, I'd be dissecting this with my best friend from home or someone like that, but as far as relative strangers/future suitemates were concerned, I'd either keep it to myself or max out at "Uhh, I'm not really sure what's going on...the roommate situation is a little weird right now, but I'm sure we'll figure it out!"</p>
<p>No, her attitude doesn't seem to make a lot of sense right now, but give her the benefit of the doubt for as long as you're able. Forget what she's written on other people's facebook walls: what has she said to you? Has she responded at all? Was she blatantly rude about it? Are you still able to send her a note asking about shared room stuff? I know people who weren't able to talk about shared stuff before the year began (specifically, people with international roommates, b/c we were only given phone numbers and this was before the advent of facebook), and things turned out fine.</p>
<p>Not an ideal start to things, but not necessarily as worrisome of one as you're assuming (at least based on my interpretation of what you've posted). Just stay polite, remember that you will likely have to live with this girl (i.e. a "Deal with it" note is probably not a good plan), and keep things as undramatic as possible. </p>
<p>My more-passive-than-average $0.02.</p>
<p>(And catsushi...I so agree ;))</p>
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<p>As we all are...</p>
<p>There could be other reasons. She could have wanted someone else she clicked with in the incoming class to be her roommate. Maybe she wanted her friend from HS or town to be her roommate.
I am guessing. I don't know yet who my roommate will be. I am hoping someone not too crazy :)</p>
<p>Have you talked with your other suitemates yet? If you have or when you do, you could try seeing if they've talked to this girl yet, and see if she believes them that they're her suitemates. Also, you could try asking her why she doesn't believe you or why she doesn't believe in checking the website; I don't know if she'd respond, but it's worth a try.</p>
<p>Is there a system to request roommates at the school you're going to? She could have requested to room with somebody else, and that might be why she isn't believing you.</p>
<p>I don't know if she requested another roommate or not. And yeah, I DID write her a short note on facebook --to which she never replied (this was before I put up this thread, of course)--and after finding out that she doesn't believe me, I gave up entirely, of course--I mean, who wants to seem like a stalker to someone who thinks she's hallucinating roommates (?!?!??!?!). Effectively, I'm just going to use my room as little as I can--because I did contact my school, but they told me to 'wait it out' and meet her before I jumped to conclusions--which does make sense, I guess. Basically I'm just leaving things up to her--if my being international is a problem with her, well, then, it's not like my school's out of rooms, or whatever. I'll just force them to get me out of it. Messy situations are not my forte.</p>
<p>And nope, I'm not going to Wellesley (I'd love to, but no such luck).</p>
<p>Thank you, everyone, for all your help! I really appreciate all your insights.</p>
<p>And Easy, I don't think you're creepy, if that counts for anything. So yay.</p>
<p>So you've not had any direct communication with this girl yet? As it stands, and if I'm reading correctly, you're basing your concerns off the facts that (1) she hasn't returned your facebook message; and (2) she's posted on other people's walls that she doesn't yet know her roommate, and that you're just a random girl trying to claim that you're the roomie.</p>
<p>It does sound like a strange situation...worthy of an eye-roll, certainly, but at this point, not much more. You are currently the one introducing the drama. That's not intended as criticism, because goodness knows how stressful the waiting-for-a-random-roommate process can be, but rather as assurance that you don't need--really, truly don't need--to take a "We already have problems" or "I'm just going to use my room as little as I can" approach yet. Don't let this stress you out over the summer or color your judgment (too dramatically) come move-in time.</p>
<p>Your school's advice sounds fair and logical. If things don't turn out well, expecting to force your way out of the situation is not a good plan. You won't be the first one to have roommate problems, and presumably, there will be specific ways for you (probably along with your roommate and RA) to go about figuring things out. Just keep an open mind for now.</p>
<p>Good call just leaving things as is for the time being. If you do end up with who's-bringing-what questions, I think it would be reasonable to send another [friendly and unassuming...] note closer to the start of the school year.</p>
<p>Best of luck. Don't stress :)</p>
<p>You can be her learning experience? Instead of being so concerned and worried about something you can do little about.</p>