<p>I am a college freshman six hours away from my home. Long and short, the first semester of my school year was the best time of my life. I made numerous friends, but now I am really struggling. My two best friends last semester lived on my floor, one is in a frat and is majorly struggling academically and doesnt want to do anything with anyone who isnt in a frat. My other friend transferred to be with his girlfriend at another school. My roommate goes home on the weekend all the time, as do my friends from another hall. I mean every single weekend. There is a group of five of them, been best friends since high school. One of the girls liked me, but I have come to learn that she backstabs people that she isnt best friends with(she never loses an argument) and goes home every weekend to see her HS friends. She talked bad about me saying I tried to hard to be friendly with everyone, because she viewed me as being a bad friend for not hanging out with her (hard to do when you cant go home!) and she is turning her friends against me. I had lunch alone for the first time this year, and i havent been getting the invites to parties as often. I also broke up with my gf first semester, and I desperately want another one, and am deeply upset that my fratty friend gets all the girls. I am involved in YL on campus, and go to mass every Sunday with a group of friends. I just, am at a loss, I never have been short of friends, I played football in high school, and i got along with everyone, I still do, but i feel that everyone leaves me for something better. What is wrong with me? what should i do?</p>
<p>I should add that I do drink and party, once a weekend ish, and im not a crazy 4 night partier like the rest of my school and i feel like I am out of the norm</p>
<p>Hey,</p>
<p>So i don’t think there is anything wrong with you. To be honest, the same thing is happening to me. First semester at college i was the happiest I’ve ever been in my life, now I’m not happy at all. Im actually thinking about transferring because the group of friends that I had made kind of rejected me, and without a group of friends no one else really wants to be my friend. So anyways, I’m having a really hard time and I’m feeling very lonely but i’ve heard from lots of people that second semester during college is really hard and I also heard that the first group of friends you have in college is not usually the group of friends you end up in the end. </p>
<p>I really don’t have any advice because I’m going through it myself. I would just say that its best to get yourself out there, try to make new friends (you honestly sound so normal and friendly) I’m sure you won’t have a problem with that. You could also get a new girlfriend, if you say you go to parties and such it might be easier to make friends with your girlfriend friends’… and if you feel like you’re really unhappy start thinking about transferring because you would only have a month to do that (a lot of colleges have a transfer date of march 1)…</p>
<p>Good luck and if you figured it out let me know what you did cause I really need advice too… :(</p>
<p>I think it can be hard if you made a bunch of friends first semester due to living near them and desperation to meet people when college first starts. Sometimes you find out you don’t have a lot in common with those initial friends and then you don’t like them as much. Just continue to be social and you’ll eventually find the right friends for you.</p>
<p>You sound like a pretty good person. Just keep putting yourself out there and you should make friends.</p>
<p>Your in better shape then me. I only made one good friend and he doesn’t even go to my school. I don’t know why but I find it very hard to make friends when you’re in college. My roommate and I don’t talk much to each other, the people on my floor are party people and I’m the reserved type. People in my classes don’t speak to one another. But I’m transferring any way in a year. Oh what your friend did was very stupid. Never go to a school because of a girlfriend, friend, etc. What if he breaks up with her won’t he feel stupid ?</p>
<p>I don’t even want to make friends at the school I go to. </p>
<p>The people suck here.</p>
<p>Thank you so much everyone! Ill try my best to keep thinking positive, I guess everything happens for a reason. It is just hard, but I have to remind myself that this is nothing compared to what some people go through. Hopefully, things will look up</p>
Hey! I’m currently in the same situation you were in so I was just wondering how it turned out for you?