<p>Backstory: So my friend and I basically decided that we hated how everyone was applying to "top" schools just to get into one. We also decided that we'd be different and apply to only schools we were interested in, and would not apply to schools the other one was applying to unless we actually liked them.
Today: I was just going to talk to my GC about some application details when I overheard my friend talking to my GC about applying to the school that has been my top school since junior year. Honestly, it hurt a little. If she actually like the school, which she doesn't because she showed no demonstrated interest, then I wouldn't care, but it she is applying because it is a "prestigious" school that is easy for her to get into. I want to know, should I talk to her or should I just hope that demonstrated interest will be enough to keep her out? Also, I know I sound whiny and entitled but it really felt bad to have her go behind my back :(
Thanks for reading.</p>
<p>Why do you want to keep her out? She is not your competition. Your competition is the entire applicant pool, and one more student is not likely to change your result. It’s possible that if you’ve talked about what you like about the school you’ve had an influence on her and she’s realized it could be a great match for her too. Wouldn’t it be nice if you both ended up there?</p>
<p>BTW, DS is in the same position. A close friend with much better stats is applying to DS’s dream school. They’re both hoping to see each other at freshman orientation. :)</p>
<p>I disagree that she is “going behind your back”. Sure you guys may be friends, but there’s no reason for her no to apply somewhere just because you are too. Also, you don’t have to show demonstrated interest to apply, or even be accepted, to a college. Further, she may show interest and you’re just not aware of it. I think you’re overreacting. Colleges will choose whoever is the best candidate for that school, and if your friend is a better candidate for that particular school, then you just have to deal with it.</p>
<p>It’s not just the competition aspect (though I see how you would think that considering my comment) it’s more because we decided that we didn’t want to be like the majority of students at our school that spam apply to top schools just because. If she actually like it, then fine, but even if we both got in, she’d still be taking the place of a student that actually wanted to go there.</p>
<p>To be blunt, it’s really not any of your business which schools your friend applies to. Schools know what percentage of accepted students is likely to enroll - your friend is not ruining someone else’s life. Don’t worry about it! Concentrate on your apps and enjoying your senior year.</p>
<p>How do you know she doesn<code>t like the school? Maybe when she heard you talking about the school, she decided to look into it, and decided she likes that. I know whenever a friend talks about x school, I</code>ll look it up if I hadn`t heard of it, or never really looked into it, because I try to keep all my options open and look at all schools, so I can see what might be good for me.
I dont see how this is "going behind your back". You dont have dibs on the school, nor do you have control to where your friend applies, so there`s really no point in worrying.</p>
<p>I understand what you are are saying, and I know that it is none of my business. <em>awkard laugh</em> I guess I got caught up in the heat of the moment when I made this thread <em>writes note to wait atleast an hour before posting about an event</em> Aslo, Sue, I would love to go of to school with this person more than anyone esle; I guess I just felt bad because we tell eachother most things (especially about college) and she didn’t say anything (which I see now that she really didn’t have to in the first place). So Thanks! for correcting me on my overaction guys!!! :)</p>
<p>Wow, I am impressed with your maturity, SuperCC! Seriously. You are going to do well in life.</p>