<p>So one of my best friends and I both applied EA to a school. We both got deferred in December. I wasn't crazy about it, but it was my friend's first choice. She visited twice and loves it.</p>
<p>Then I just found out today that I got in. She didn't.</p>
<p>How do I handle this? I feel a little bit guilty that I got into a school that isn't high up on my list, while her dreams were crushed. I'm sure I'll be in her shoes as I hear back from more schools, but what should I do in my current position?</p>
<p>don’t feel guilty. this is a test of your friendship. if she is a friend of yours. she should be happy for you. easier said then done, of course.</p>
<p>Due to the nature of humans she’ll probably be quite unhappy for a week or so. If she’s a great friend she’ll fake her happiness and hide her anger. If she’s your best friend she’ll be blunt with you but later you get over it. My advice would to just not talk about it, or switch the subject when it does come up.</p>
<p>I really hope I can get into my ex’s top pick, ha the cruelty!</p>
<p>I’m sure most will disagree, but if she was a really great person who’s friendship I cared alot about, and the school wasn’t really a serious contender for me, I probably wouldn’t tell her I got off the deferred list…at least not until she was settled on a school she was happy with. If it were a school I was seriously considering…and would be interested in her input in my decision, of course. But for a school I wasn’t thinking about…I really don’t see much point in telling her immediately.</p>
<p>What school was it?</p>
<p>First, I would not mention this to her at this time. Help her as she chooses among those that accepted her if she asks for your input. In the mean time, look at those that accepted you. Don’t put off the school in question just to please your friend. You need to choose a school on it’s merits and cost - not because a friend couldn’t get in to it.</p>
<p>She knows I got in from Facebook. That’s how I found out she didn’t get in. She got into two other schools, but she doesn’t really like them. I feel bad…she only applied to 4 schools…
she also deactivated her Facebook. I talked to her today and she says she happy for me, but obviously she’s upset. Also, another friend who wanted to get in really badly got rejected too. She was also deferred EA.</p>