<p>Okay so well I'm "good" friends with this girl at school she's sweet and everything and I love her. But the only thing when she's around this other girl, who is supposedly her BFF ( last year they barely talked the only reason they're friends now is because each of their BFF's transferred this year, convenient huh?) I can't stand it, it's like they go off and do there own thing and leave me behind. I'll give you an 2 examples so you'll get an idea of what an idea of what I'm talking about.</p>
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<li><p>We were working on our project and Friday after school I was planning to go to her house to work/hang out on the project after she practiced softball with this other friend. School ends at 3:00 and practice ends at 4:45ish so I would be waiting for around 2 hours at school and then go to her house. So I waited :) and when she came back they suddenly decided they wanted to go to the basketball game that night together. Isn't that wrong? I waited for her to go to her house and I felt so dissed. So I put on my poker face and smiled and said okay..... so yeah</p></li>
<li><p>Now this was recent. Every year our school puts on a mime Passion play for Holy Thursday. I volunteered to do makeup for the play. And lone and behold my friend also volunteered (before there was no room but another person dropped out). And of COURSE this other friend joined too, I guess she begged to get in. So after we're done doing the makeup we're they're deciding where to sit. This other friend is talking to my friend as if I'm not standing there. She's all "lets sit in back when I get finished..." Completely ignoring me. Isn't that rude, to make plans as if another person isn't here. So we all went to get seats and it was dark and very quiet mind you for the play. The other friend chose seats but there weren't enough for 3 of us. I had to end up sitting in a totally different area. Seriously could she do math or not.....3 people equals 3 seats...</p></li>
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<p>Anyone I have more examples but I don't want to make this more lengthy than it already is. I'm not the only friend of hers who doesn't like "the other friend". I've even resorted to ignoring her if I see her with her in the halls, is that too harsh? I've even told her about it, well not about leaving me out stuff but how I really don't like the other friend.</p>
<p>something like this happened to me my 8th grade year. Personally I got tired of being the 3rd wheel(although I was that person’s friend 1st) and it gets depressing after a while. a true friend wouldn’t EVER leave you hanging. I decided that my happiness was much more important. I’d rather be happy alone than miserable hanging around other people. you’ll make new friends.</p>
<p>Are you still in HS or currently enrolled in college?</p>
<p>I had this happened to me since last year with a girl and I’ve managed to dump her on my own without her knowing and have forgotten about it. No, she wasn’t my gf. It was a friend.</p>
<p>Everybody has either been in this situation or will be, and it’s no fun. Look for other friends you can spend more time with, but don’t do anything that would cut off the friendship you want to keep. Comment (positively) on her Facebook status from time to time to remind her you’re alive. Maybe she’ll come back and maybe she won’t.</p>
<p>Was she your best friend previously? Or were you only close friends?</p>
<p>I’ve seen this happen to people before. You really have three main choices. Make some new friends or join another group. Become good friends with that other girl. Or reconnect with your old friend (hang out with her).</p>
<p>This happened to me too, she was my best friend but when she had more classes with the other girl…yeahh…I just made other friends and I still talk to her all the time…but it’s not the same.</p>
<p>Oh, I’m sorry for the late reply guys, thanks for all the replies. And yes I am in high school</p>
<p>The truth is I don’t like the other girl. I don’t know… she comes across as not trustworthy to me. And a little racist. She always making race jokes, and says ‘no offense’ really fast to me because I’m the only minority at the table, but sometimes it gets annoying, maybe she’s not racist but that really annoys me…</p>
<p>^Perhaps you should tell her that her jokes do offend you, and you would appreciate it if she would tell jokes that are non-racial, or at least limit them.
Also, sometimes it’s better to just get on friendly TERMS with the other person, you don’t really have to be BFF’s or anything, just be amiable with them.
I think this has happened to almost everyone, though, so at least you’re in good company. :)</p>