<p>I have a dilemma. I knew someone who from freshman through junior year I considered a friend, despite the fact that she'd randomly stop talking to me for several months at a time and then want to be best friends again. It happened again end of last year (junior) and I decided I wasn't gonna go with it if she suddenly came back and tried to be friends this year. So we're cordial now, but definately not close. I've also found out some new information through another friend that solidifies this. She's not someone that I plan on seeing much of after high school.</p>
<p>The problem is we're both looking at the same small, private college (under 3,000 people). I don't know how serious she is about it, but for me this place is one of two that I really like and could see myself at. I know there's plenty of people to meet at college and all that jazz, but if we went to the same place, we'd be involved in a lot of the same stuff. Chances are we'd run in the same social circles and I'd see her a lot. Sadly this is not something I want. But I also don't want to choose a school because she will not be there. </p>
<p>don't let anyone get in the way of your college plans... there are always ways to avoid them</p>
<p>ps. a certain guy who was definitely obsessed with me last year and I turned down in an embarassing fasbion goes to one of my top schools. after about a day of thinking "holy crap i can't go there" i gave up because chances are... i won't ever see him. in your school with 3000 ppl it might be a bigger chance of seeing her and whatnot, but college is a time to grow up and put things in the past. you dont have to be around anyone you don't want to!</p>
<p>i'm in a somewhat similar situation, except that i am friends with the person. i don't mean this in any bad way at all, because she's one of my good friends, but i don't want her to be looking into my top choice school...i want to get away from everything having to do with high school (even if that means not being near/with friends) and i want a chance to be on my own and try and change certain things about me -- having friends around will just make me act like i normally do. college for me is a place to do new things, try new things, make new friends (on my own), etc. and i know that if she went, she'd want to hang out with me all the time and would ask me advice on every single thing and i don't think i'd ever be able to not be with her (again, no offence to her at all!). i feel terrible that i feel this way, but it's the truth =</p>