<p>Now, I feel humiliated. The DVD case (from which they got the DVD slipped under my door) is now on the couch in the common area facing my door. People would probably be quick to assume that it came from my room or something...and God forbid, rumors are being spread. AHH!</p>
<p>That sounds like sexual harrasment. If it is making things uncomfertable for you in the dorms you should contact the appropriate person (RA?).</p>
<p>Gian, are you evidently gay by your tone and gestures? How would your room/hallmates know that you are gay? Also, what school do you go to--the people there seem ridiculously immature. One advice, don't take this personally and move on man. If you don't know who the culprit is, I wouldn't suggest talking to the RA now--take this as a joke for now, for you don't want seem too cranky. However, if you don't feel confortable or if another accident happens, talk to someone right away. Good luck...</p>
<p>No, but I'm not overly masculine either.</p>
<p>They know primarily through Facebook (I'm Facebook "friends" with all the people on my floor), the TV, and GSA events.</p>
<p>I didn't take the prank personally. What I take personally is the fact that this person I was on friendly terms with (the one I actually got along with the most ) has stopped talking to me, probably because he assumed that the DVD (which is still in the common area... I haven't touched it) was mine, he cave in to peer pressure, and/or he believes the rumors (God forbid, there are any) that could be circulating right now. I would say hi to him in a very recognizable manner, but he would not even respond or acknowledge my greeting (I did this three times already...initially, I thought he just didn't hear me, but that's clearly not the case. I would have no more of this).</p>
<p>You could move to another hall next term if the atmosphere stays like this.What school do you go to?</p>
<p>He likes me. He likes me not. He likes me. He likes me not. He likes me. He likes me not. He likes me. He likes me not. </p>
<p>Just a theory.</p>
<p>Frustrating! (though it was sweet at first)</p>
<p>To answer frasi's question: Loyola Univ. Chicago. Yes, I will have to move next year because freshmen and sophomore dorms are separate.</p>
<p>Update on the incident: </p>
<p>I was right in assuming that the prank was meant to be a harmless joke, but nonetheless, I treated the incident with some degree of formality just to let people know that something like that shouldn't happen over and over (in which case, it really becomes offensive). Basically, I left an anonymous note in the common area explaining that the incident might be considered offensive by some (they probably figured that I wrote the note, but I wanted to create doubt, since I'm not the only one on the floor who has responded to homophobic comments before). Days later, the culprit responded by sliding an anonymous letter under my door (I was half-asleep when this happened and figured that it was someone from a few doors away, eliminating suspicion on that one blatantly homophobic guy from the beginning of the year... he hasn't changed). Things are fine now, but I'm not naive. I know that homophobic comments are still being made behind my back (though not necessarily directed towards me).</p>
<p>"He" in post 67 is completely unrelated to the incident (like, of course). I should've switched the order of the posts, but it's too late now. Anyway, that was my attempt to reach out to other gay guys on the same boat. It's so freakin hard to have only ~4% of the population to choose from, and on top of that, to have to figure out which relationship is worth solidifying (hard to tell if the other person is "interested").</p>
<p>gian, you can get those guys in serious trouble if you wanted to. I say give them a wake-up call.</p>
<p>Sorry to hear about your recent experience. Have you decided if you're transferring or not? I remember you considering it earlier.</p>
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<p>And less if you're a girl...</p>
<p>But then, at least you have less competition, too.</p>
<p>To warbler: I don't plan on transferring for fall '07 (if I do transfer, it will be in '08). Truth be told, I'm actually liking it here. My main concern in the beginning was not fitting the mold of students who go here, but this is no longer a problem. I've learned to be unapologetic about things I wholeheartedly believe and stand for (basically, a take-it-or-leave-it philosophy). I really thought I would be left out for my agnosticism, sexual orientation, unconventional life philosophy (among other things), but most people are open-minded enough to give you a chance to get to know them and them, you. I get the impression, though, that many don't really care about most issues because they're often easily swayed. Occasionally, people are wide-eyed when I introduce my ideas to clubs/organizations, but this is probably because many are too quick to make assumptions about certain ideas (If you are X, you must believe in Y)...I understand that it takes a different college environment to find people who are genuinely curious. Generally, people here talk about mundane topics, not because they're not capable of discussing ideas but because the academic atmosphere doesn't do enough to encourage the latter (as a result, you hear a lot of "that's cool," "awesome," "that's the ****," so that conversations quickly become boring and futile). Maybe it depends on how mundane topics are approached (because my friends and I definitely had a great conversation about someone's habit of eating spinach at every meal). There are definitely a lot of interesting people here. Just tonight, I was waiting at a bus stop when this girl from my HS (we rarely ever talked in HS) and her friends spontaneously invited me to a poetry slam where the girl was performing. I never knew she had such talent... I'm so glad I went b/c I could see myself doing this in the future! We are so over the cliques in HS (ugh)... she was in the "party" crowd and I was in the non-conformist, artistic but preppy, smartypants crowd. I'm sure there's no shortage of interesting people at this school. Just among my friends, one is a very religious, anti-gay-marriage bisexual girl who developed by bipolar disorder after her mother died; a gay poor Catholic farmboy who hasn't come out of the closet b/c of high expectations set for him by his parents as the oldest child; a girl from the SouthSide of Chicago who was a complete social recluse in HS, raised by a very conservative single-mother-Baptist-preacher; a cultured, sophisticated, well-traveled gay Catholic prep school boy who refuses to identify w/ anything gay and is obsessed with Harry Potter and the Oscars; a devout Catholic schoolgirl who's obsessed with The Office, pro-gay-marriage, hardcore pro-life; a Californian sweet valley prep school girl who's pretty much hopelessly attracted to gay guys only; a moderately liberal Southern girl who reminds me of Reese Witherspoon from Sweet Home Alabama (same accent, same demeanor, same style).</p>