I’m a senior at Bard College and haven’t made any friends these past 4 years no matter what I do. I’ve decided to try to overcome my fear of sitting in the cafeteria to see if maybe I can finally meet people. However, I’ve had really bad experiences in the cafeteria on campus so far where one group of girls who I thought were my “friends” would put food in my water and record videos of me spitting it out for Snapchat, throw food at me, or people would just tell me I couldn’t sit with them and shoo me away. Is this an irrational fear? How can I overcome this?
Just saw this post. I am so sorry you are having a tough time. For the bullies, I would speak to someone in student services. Schools do not want to have students being harassed by idiots. Having said that, I would still go to the cafeteria… just don’t sit near that group.
I think it is hard to make true friends and considering someone a friend takes a while. For meeting other students, I would look into joining clubs or get involved in helping the school. Whether welcoming new students, giving tours etc. Seems like a good way to meet people.
Good luck with everything.
Honestly, you are a senior and the end of the first semester is almost here. Focus on life after college. What are your plans? At this point friendships probably won’t be made at the cafeteria, and since you’ve been bullied I’d focus on staying away from that group of people.
If you do want to focus on the social, look into clubs or a religious/church group, possibly something outside of your school.