<p>I'm sure threads like these have been written in the past, but anyway I am getting frustrated and angry with my roommates. They are very lazy and they barely do housework at all. </p>
<p>I live with four other guys in an apartment and I am doing all of the housework. I haven't cooked in my apartment in the last three or four months yet I still do the dishes two to three times a week because they just end up sitting and I get fed up and do them. I take out the trash almost all the time, take out the trash in the bathrooms almost all the time, clean the living room, etc. I tell them every couple of weeks to help out and they shore up for maybe a day or two before slipping back to their old ways.</p>
<p>The most frustrating thing is that I'm one of the busier people living here; I have two roommates especially who don't do any extracurricular activities and are at home pretty much all the time outside of class and those two do the least work. I had enough and created a chore schedule, but they don't do their chores properly and it's really starting to bug me.</p>
<p>I'm very close to losing it with them and I wanted some advice from some people who have had to deal with similar roommates. I am not a clean freak who wants the dishes to be done every day or the bathroom to be cleaned every day. They are just being lazy and not helping. My mom has told me to not get paranoid about these things because they won't change, but I'm starting to get really upset. Any advice?</p>
<p>When you are living with other guys you must consider about somethings. But i think you are the most suffered one. You should talk with your roommate. Told them about you problems. Share daily works.</p>
<p>All you can do is keep reminding them about everyone’s chores. Don’t just tell them to help out–specifically ask them to do their dishes or take out the trash. Perhaps, you could have a rule about everyone doing their own dishes within a certain amount of time, or they have to store them somewhere else. Don’t do their dishes for them. If it bothers you, just don’t look at it. If they’re home doing nothing, remind them to do whatever chore they’re supposed to do.</p>
<p>But also, be reasonable. Your standards may be higher than everyone else’s, and you can’t always expect them to do everything the way you want them to. If it really bothers you that much, yes, you’re going to have to just do it yourself. You may not think you’re a clean freak, but other people may feel like you are. It may be a matter of finding other people to live with than trying to turn them all into you.</p>
<p>See I am mean as heck when I am pushed too far. I had a roommate that never cleaned her dishes, pots and pans. I worked way longer hours than she did and I was so tire of having to clean before I cooked my dinner. After months and months of this I want yelling after her with one of those dirty pans. She thought I was going to hit her with the darn thing but I was just using it to prove my point. My other roommate laughed her butt off and thought is was the right thing to do. She did stop leaving her dishes out. In hindsight, I should have just moved the stuff out of the way and made my meals. You should put the dishes in a bag or a box and put them out of sight. Let them run out of things to use. </p>
<p>Let the trash run over. Let the whole thing be gross. </p>
<p>Then next year either get a single or find better roommates. </p>
<p>Also wanted to add, you should really make sure your spouse likes to clean or keeps things as nice as you do. It makes for a better life together. I personally don’t think you are expecting too much but I clean not live in a dirty place either. </p>
<p>I would think that a housekeeping agreement set up before you are actually roommates would be a good idea.</p>
<p>Put the dirty dishes in a bag or box, and leave it on their bed. Find one or two sets of clean dishes to use for yourself, and do just that. Use them, clean them, and put them away where you can use them again next time. They aren’t doing the chores because they know you will eventually do them. So don’t! </p>
<p>I agree that you need to stop doing their chores for them, but don’t put dirty dishes on their beds (even if bagged). It’s an invasion of their personal space and will not help the problem at all. You might need to have a serious conversation (not a lecture) with each individual to just stress how the dirtiness makes the place unpleasant to live in. Be receptive to their points, and hopefully things will get better. </p>
<p>Most college students are somewhat messy, but roomates should be courteous enough to keep it cleanish in common spaces. </p>
<p>I agree that you should talk to them and just move their stuff out of the way instead of doing their chores. One of my current roommates has a habit of leaving stuff (namely dirty dishes and food containers) out. At the beginning of the year me and my other roommate talked to her individually and basically told her that if she didn’t move her stuff we’d move it for her. The next day when stuff was still left out, we kept our word and moved everything out of the way. At that point she realized we were serious about cleaning up after herself and she’s been good about it ever since. Well, sometimes we need to remind her that she left stuff out but she goes and cleans up as soon as we remind her now.</p>
<p>Put your foot down and hopefully they’ll get the message and change their habits. And get better roommates next year if at all possible.</p>