<p>I've liked this girl for over a year now but I know she doesn't really have any feelings for me. She'll talk to me when there is nobody else for her to talk to but when she's with her friends she doesn't know I exist. I actually asked her last year and she said she doesn't notice the fact that she ignores me. I'm pretty sure she does this because I'm shy and quiet but still somewhat social. It seems as though no matter how nice I am to her, she'll always leave me out of things or just alienate me when she's around other people. It's hard to avoid her because when she does talk to me (when nobody else is around or when she needs help on something), she's really nice to me. And she's pretty too lol.</p>
<p>I know the obvious answer is to just ignore her and try to block her out, but it's tough to do that when I have a couple classes with her where I sit right next to her. The fact that I've known her for almost 2 years and we have a lot of friends in common also makes it hard to ignore her. We're also involved in the same clubs after school so that makes it worse. So what can I do; I know she doesn't like me...how can I get over her and move on? Thanks for reading.</p>
<p>Ignore her. More importantly, ignore her when she has nobody to talk to and she tries to talk to you. Obviously this proposition is difficult and you may look like an a$$hole but if you wan’t to get back at this girl, thats the best solution. </p>
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<p>You can become really extroverted and try to attract her attention. I don’t recommend this option because chances are you’re going to look like a tool or just embarrass yourself. Trust me, ignoring her publicly and openly is a lot better than this.</p>
<p>Def just ignore her. It’s not a bad thing at all. </p>
<p>I used to think “ohh ignoring someone, so taboo. They’ll think I’m the worst blahblah,” but in actuality she prob wants you to stop talking to her. </p>
<p>You know you’re a great guy; you can easily “move on” from this. </p>
<p>Go bowling, do some push ups, love yourself and be yourself.</p>
<p>I ignored her today in the 2 classes she does talk to me in but felt kinda sad afterwards, like a “Wow, I blew a chance” feeling. Idk maybe I’ll get over that feeling soon. It’s infatuation lol…-__- </p>
<p>And also, we share a lot of the same friends and trying to ignore her when we’re hanging out is so awkward cause she didn’t invite me but my friends did. But thanks for answering; appreciate it!</p>
<p>I had this one girl play me once back in 8th-9th grade. We would talk a lot via text ,AIM, but when i tried to talk to her at lunch, in class, or anywhere in public, she would ignore me at first. What did I do? I stopped talking to her in public too. </p>
<p>Soon enough she tried to talk to me in public (just like I did), and I completely ignored her and shut her down. I felt bad. I mean, I felt horrible. She started asking me stupid questions like, “Why do you hate me?” and other stuff like that, and I wouldn’t even look her way. I still liked her, but I wanted her to feel just like I did - ignored. We just gradually stopped talking and I just kind of forgot about her. If I had another shot I probably would have done the same thing. </p>
<p>Girls have to realize that you aren’t some sort of safety net they can fall back on. They think they can play you and you’ll still talk to to them but its YOUR job to show them that is not going to happen. </p>
<p>Just SHUT her down.</p>
<p>just my 3 cents, i’m sure some people won’t like this idea.</p>
<p>Yeah I’ve tried for a year now to get her to like me so there’s no regret. Not like I didn’t try. But that girl liked you so ignoring was actually effective. But in this case I’m almost 100% sure she has no feelings. I mean I’ve ignored someone in the past, it makes it easier to ignore the person when they want to talk to you (kinda like your case). But I really don’t think she’d care.</p>
<p>But I agree with you, make her feel how I felt.</p>
<p>Don’t ignore her. Just be nonchalant about her existence. If she chats on AIM be detached and ‘cool.’ If she says hey in school give an unemotional and uncaring “what’s up.”</p>
<p>In general girls don’t like guys that are all desperate sounding, and I <em>sort of</em> got the vibe from your post that you acted a little on the “desperate for interaction” side. But I don’t know, I’m only judging from your post. She sounds like she’s not worth liking. </p>
<p>But good luck :D</p>
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<p>I don’t think that’s a generally accepted rule. You have the best input, not us, and you said you think almost 100% she doesn’t like you. But sometimes girls are shy around the guy they like and avoid them or freak out when the guy talks to them and act detached as a result (cause they’re watching everything they say). Only to certain girls, from what I know, and mostly younger more immature girls…</p>
<p>Go for a more attractive, more intelligent, more personable, and all around just better girl. 75% of it is about confidence. Show confidence (not so much that you appear arrogant) and it will significantly help your shots with that ladies. Don’t worry about being shot down. It’s not he end of the world if you get turned down. You just move on and keep the confidence.</p>