<p>Ever since the 10th grade, I've had a huge crush on this girl. Now, I'm a senior and tomorrow is my last day of high school, and I find myself in a worse position that I was at the start of sophomore year. </p>
<p>This girl doesn't care about me much at all, unless she needs help on homework. I've tried to break interaction with her by not hanging out with her outside of school (we've been friends since 10th grade as well), but most of my best friends in high school are her best friends as well, so it makes it difficult to avoid her. </p>
<p>She doesn't try to neglect me; I feel like it's just natural. She forgot about my birthday but not any of my friends' birthdays. In fact, she would go out of her way to make their birthdays special. It took her a measly 5 minutes to reflect on a 3-year old friendship in my yearbook, but for my other friends it took her over 30 minutes to write her yearbook message. </p>
<p>When I told her about my feelings, she avoided me. The only reason why I started to develop feelings for her was because when we were alone (like in a class where she didn't have anyone else to talk to), she would actually talk to me and expressed care for me, so I guess I misinterpreted that a lot. When she's around my friends, I don't exist :/</p>
<p>I just want to know how I can get over this. It's really consumed my mind all through high school. We're going to different colleges and will probably never see each other ever again, but despite everything negative that she does to me, I seem to miss her when she's not around. Idk why. Any suggestions?</p>
<p>Basically was in a similar situation last year. Life sucks because I still care about this girl, I’m already done with a year of college, and I still want to hang out with her (but she is in a relationship).</p>
<p>See I’m worried that’s gonna happen to me. I can see myself in a similar situation. And yeah, life does suck when this type of stuff happens. Sorry :(</p>
<p>The only way I imagine I’ll ever break free is if I find someone here in college, which I didn’t this year unfortunately. </p>
<p>See, in fact, I am going to see this girl whom I am infatuated with tomorrow: whenever I talk to her, she gives me the faintest hope that I’ll somehow be closer to her, just enough to push me forward to make me care. Just avoid what I’m doing because it’s miserable. I hope to god I see a picture of her at prom or something with another guy that enrages me enough so that I can finally move on in life.</p>
<p>I think I’m in the same position as the OP with liking someone since sophomore year, except that I’ve been too focused on academics to really give a darn and the girl I’ve semi-secretly had my eye on is a year younger. </p>
<p>My rationale for not caring is that no girl really deserves the attention unless she’s been a close friend. We’re just acquaintances, and it’s the last of my priorities. </p>
<p>It’s just that I’m done most of my classes now and it’s been entering my mind as well. I just try to forget about it. I think at this age, women have a tendency to be a distraction that gets in the way of productivity and ambition.</p>
<p>Just out of curiosity, did she start not paying as much attention to you before or after you informed her of your feelings?</p>
<p>This is never a fun situation to be in, but give it time and try not to think too much about it. Don’t overanalyze, or make anything feel awkward around her. A few months of this, and she’ll probably be out of your mind/</p>
Aaargh, that’s exactly how I feel. Except that I have times when I get ridiculously distracted. Almost to the point of lovesick, haha. And then I get over it. And then it comes back. Frustrating, really. I just want to pick one feeling and stick with it, but I can’t :/</p>
<p>I’ve seen this a lot with friends. I think often the problem is that the person doesn’t really want to get over the crush. You know it’s the right thing to do, but you’ve put this person on a pedestal to stop crushing is to admit you were wrong about them. Admitting you’re wrong always sucks.</p>
<p>I’m not sure if this is the case with you, but think about it. If it is, you won’t know it without a lot of self-evaluation. And if it is, then you’re problem is admitting you were wrong. That takes a lot of confidence because you have to realize you can wrong and still be awesome. Which then will make you realize that you’re awesome and shouldn’t like her. Obviously this is a simplification of the process, but I think it involves these things.</p>
<p>from the way I read your post, it seems that you told her how you felt, and she doesnt feel the same way. that sucks, but at least view it from the bright side. At least you had the balls to tell her how you felt. Regardless of the outcome, that was incredibly courageous. that kind of courage is more than most guys can boast.</p>
<p>also, try to consider it from her perspective. I’m in a situation similar to hers. I met this girl, and we became slightly friendly. we were “school friends.” she started to annoy me a tiny bit, but we were still friendly. Then she develops this ridiculous crush on me, that was so painfully obvious that it made it impossible to carry on a conversation with her. So, I acted like your crush did, by trying to avoid her. Why? Because if I continued to talk to her, I would have only given her false hope, and she had no interest in being “just friends.” it would have been impossible for me to keep the friendship up. She apparently now views me as a “jerk” for this. </p>
<p>Also she’s been creepily obsessive. Like following me in the hallways, and listening in on my conversations. and getting angry at me for being interested in other girls…</p>
<p>I know how she feels, because I’ve been in that situation where someone likes you and you don’t exactly feel the same way. That’s why after I told her everything/made it so blatantly obvious to her that I actually didn’t need to tell her, I also told her that we could be friends if she doesn’t find it awkward, and if she does feel awkward then it’s completely understandable. </p>
<p>I expected her to ignore me after I told her. That’s natural. I just can’t help but get over the fact that for 3 years straight, I’ve always been neglected even though I help her through so much both academically and socially. It’s like she just freeloaded off me for 3 years and I let it all happen cause I really liked her, and now I can’t get over her cause my feelings have developed so much.</p>
Just avoid what I’m doing because it’s miserable. I hope to god I see a picture of her at prom or something with another guy that enrages me enough so that I can finally move on in life.</p>