Girlfriend troubles and jealousy issues

<p>I'm having some troubles with my girlfriend, and I need some help. Well, I shouldn't say troubles, per se, but here's what happened. Me and my girlfriend know the password to each others Facebook. I don't really have anything to hide, and up until last night I didn't think she had anything to hide either. I happened to just be online and I just went into her profile, and I saw she had a PM and a friend request from a guy. I looked at the PM and it was this guy telling her that they were in the same class and he always thought she was pretty and wanted to talk to her but never did. He said he hated that he missed the opportunity to talk to her because he sees that she has a boyfriend now. He also said she probably wouldn't have liked him anyway, but he's trying to add her to his Facebook.</p>

<p>Why is he trying to add her if he knows she has a boyfriend? I was upfront with her and told her what I'd seen, and she was just like, she remembers him from class, and she was flattered, but nothing was going to happen. I asked her why did she need to add him if nothing is going to happen. She just said she was trying to be nice, but I think this guy might get the wrong idea and might still want to try something.</p>

<p>Am I just being really jealous or justifiably suspicious?</p>

<p>I think you’re going overboard on the suspicion. Good relationships are based on trust…don’t you trust your girlfriend when she says nothing will happen?</p>

<p>I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it - if you’re girlfriend is good looking obviously that would happen.</p>

<p>Way too suspicious. Lay off, dude.</p>

<p>It’s Facebook. It’s not that serious.</p>

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I may not call as much attention to my “game” as others, but I’d have to say you’re not being either jealous or suspicious, you’re just going about it like a friggin NOOB.
If you act like you’re jealous, what you think is going to happen eventually will happen.
I understand that many guys have this habit when this is one of their first few relationships, but I find that you’re better able to hold onto a chick when you act like this doesn’t even “phaze” you.
One of the most important things in dating is to be reasonable and stick to your guns. You need to be consistent and reasonable in the way that you deal with things. Don’t tell her that you will dump her if you find out this is what is going on, just make it clear through your actions that you will not hesistate to end something if you no longer trust her.</p>

<p>I don’t get why couples share passwords to their Facebooks and that stuff. You’re not married, surely you deserve some level of privacy. Just leads to unnecessary complications - like this thread. (If you can’t even trust eachother to be loyal on Facebook, what are you doing together?)</p>

<p>You’re not kind of being an idiot here, you’re just plain being and idiot.</p>

<p>Which brings me to this question: do people really upset over the status setting on Facebook? i.e. somebody gets angry with their bf/gf and changes their status to “single,” and then all Hell breaks loose?</p>

<p>I saw mention of this on some tv show the other day and didn’t believe it could possibly be true.</p>

<p>i mean, i found some sketchy stuff in my ex-boyfriend’s email. some girl at his work gave him her number; he ripped it up & said he didn’t want it but i later found out he’d already saved it in his phone…then he sent facebook messages to like 3 different girls with her name trying to find her. i found out about that and got kind of upset, but he said it was nothing so i let it go. </p>

<p>then a week and a half later i found a long string of facebook messages between them AND a bunch of text messages. she’d said things like, “i get first dibs if anything goes awry with your gf,” etc., and he’d suggested they hang out sometime. he’d been telling me bold-faced lies about it that entire time.</p>

<p>keep in mind that he had previously cheated on me. i flipped out and finally ended our relationship for good.</p>

<p>while this situation isn’t quite elevated to that level yet, don’t be too naive because i’ve learned you really can’t trust anything but your intuition…</p>

<p>Take it as a compliment that other guys find your girlfriend attractive; facebook is not a big deal. Control what you can control…instead of arguing over who she’s friends with, take her out to dinner.</p>

<p>First of all, try not to check your girlfriend’s Facebook too much or you might become obsessed. Don’t go nuts with it.</p>

<p>On the other hand, a little jealousy is natural, and it’s actually kind of flattering to see your boyfriend/girlfriend so possessive of you. As long as you don’t go psycho about it, and don’t take it out on your girlfriend since she definitely has done nothing wrong (really, I think some people would add Hitler on Facebook if he friended them…clicking the button is just that easy). Keep the guy in your sight at least a little though, he’s a real do-uche for pulling the “too bad you have a boyfriend” line.</p>