<p>I've heard of people just not using IM on their computers for the first semester or year, and I think it sounds rather like a good idea. While this would put me out of touch with a lot of my friends back home, the ones that really matter are the ones I'll talk to on the phone every now and then, and I have a livejournal that I'll update when I actually have a minute or two to do so. I don't want to be overly ambitious, I'm sure I'll end up using IM every now and then, but I don't want to have to waste time answering questions like "SO ARE THE BOYS CUTE AT USAFA?!?! <3<3" and "DID THEY SHAVE YOUR HEAD YET?"</p>
<p>I think I'll get by. There are 4,000-something cadets at USAFA that seem to get by just fine :)</p>
<p>I had that tentative plan for a bit, and since I date alot, it was an idea I was maladjusted to. So I'm open to dating people until June 29th, I just don't plan on getting serious at all. There's no reason to not have fun with dating (if that's your cup of tea) before you leave for USAFA!</p>
<p>If you still choose to not date, then content yourself knowing some really awesome girls will be going to the same college as you next year!</p>
<p>Let me tell you it is hard. My boyfriend is a plebe this year and it's been rough. We were dating over a year before he left and still are dating. I live about 800 miles away which makes it even more difficult, but I know we're going to last :) we're are very strong.</p>
<p>Wow this is a Golden Oldie. KP if it is meant to be it will. Daughter has been with the same boy since they were Sophmores in HS. She is in her second year at USAFA. He attends Embry-Riddle in AZ about 900 miles away. They see each other over the holidays, and breaks. Both are very busy people. Only time will tell if they will be together after school, but they are committed to each other.</p>
<p>This may sound heartless, but here goes. You are now at an age where you should think about your future. Look at your SO and decide do they have what it takes to be left behind in a foreign country while pregnant with no family? Are they willing to change jobs every 2-3 yrs so you can advance in yours? Will they be able to understand that you must take the jets to safety while they ride out the hurricane without power or drinking water? It is not an easy life, making new friends every few yrs and watching your children cry as they say goodbye to their friends. These are the facts, hard, but true. When Bullet retired last month he stood in front of 100's of people reiterating what I always said to him...I was the mistress and the AF was his wife. The AF took him away for holidays, anniversaries and special family occassions, after 20 yrs I am now the wife, and the AF is now his mistress (Bullet has joined the contracting world for the AF)</p>
<p>It is not easy and it never will be, but like ds52262 said if you are committed to each other the joy outweighs any pain</p>
<p>Honestly there is more to it than that! I almost got married in January but my fiance called off the wedding two days before hand becuase I simply could not talk to her about my job. Are you willing to deal with that? A lot of military jobs will require your SO to have a security clearance that will require them to be silent about what they do after they leave the Academy.</p>
<p>Very true, but the perfect SO gets it the 1st time you say I can tell you, but then I would have to shoot you :)</p>
<p>Serious note bluesuiter is right, your SO needs to understand that there will be things that they cannot discuss. However, the OWC-CIA already has told all of the spouses :eek: ....for all of the youngsters it is now known as the Officer Spouses Club (oldies know it as the Officers Wives Club).</p>
<p>it really all depends on what you want to do. I had to call off my wedding because my fiance couldn't handle the fact of me being gone for 4 yrs, then 5 yrs committed after. But I now have another boyfriend, 500 miles away, and we make it work. i talk to him probably 1 hr. a day, and more on weekends. I still have time to do all my homework and consequently have A's and B's. Facebook is awesome to keep in contact with family and friends. that's my main way of communication.</p>
<p>When I first met my boyfriend, he was about to start his senior year. Well two months later we started dating…We had an amazing couple of months, we never fought, and we just understood each other. Well when I found out he had been accepted into the Air Force Academy, I didn’t know what to expect but I wasn’t afraid at all - My dad is in the Army and my brother is in the Navy. I was perfectly fine with everything, but he wasn’t…a couple of weeks before he left he broke up with me. Confused and upset, I didn’t talk to him for the next couple of days. Well the next time he came over we decided to have an open relationship since I wanted to be with him but he didn’t want me to wait. (You see I was his first girlfriend and he didn’t know how the Academy would effect him or our relationship.) Well after a couple of months of letters, rare phone calls and texts or messages on Face book, he told me he had made a mistake…We were now official again. After that he had full access to his phone and computer. He would sometimes even send me goodmorning texts When he came back for Thanksgiving, everything was back to normal and it has been ever since.</p>
<p>I know that it hasn’t even been a year now, but it seems like the distance and the Academy are making us stronger than ever… Even though I miss him like crazy and only see him 7 weeks out of a year, I know that what he is doing is what he wants to do. Because of this I respect his space and even when he is missing me, I always remind him what is important. He is doing his best and I will always be there for support whenever he needs me, no matter what happens…</p>
<p>These relationships can work out, but it takes a lot of work. You have to be dedicated and know that you’re not the most important thing in their life anymore, no matter what they tell you!! :)</p>
When he came back for Thanksgiving, everything was back to normal and it has been ever since.</p>