<p>Hi!
Well my girlfriend and I are a pretty simple couple. We were bestfriends before we went out and we are really, really happy together. College is about to start for the both of us and I have the choice to stay home or go to a college 10mins away from hers and we would practically live with each other. However, the college here at home is a little better (not by much) and cheaper (about 5k less a year). What should I do? We both have the same ambitions and goals of working hard and studying. </p>
<p>PS: I LOVE her</p>
<p>And her college would be about 7hours away by car</p>
<p>Thanks!</p>
<p>That’s really sweet of you to consider doing that. I completely understand your desire to be together however, one thing you should consider is, if you for some odd reason aren’t together after a year or two, would you still be content with yourself having spent that extra 5k a year for the other school? Will you miss the folks back home? Does the college there support your needs?</p>
<p>I know this is a hard decision, but it one you will have to weigh out and talk about together</p>
<p>Your situation is complicated, since you mentioned family issues in another thread. Can you attend the college at home and live in the dorms? What is your financial situation? Do you have any merit scholarships that you would lose if you transferred from one school to the other?</p>
<p>You mentioned the home college is better, and cheaper, so how does that fit into your plans financially? Are you really meaning live with your girlfriend or will you both be in the dorms? </p>
<p>There are a lot of circumstances here that make your decision not very clear cut. In your other thread, you mentioned some academic weaknesses and emotional issues due to being at home, and that you wanted to be farther away. No matter where you go to college, if you don’t do well, and don’t graduate, it will lead to bigger problems. Go to the one you can afford and where you can do your best. </p>
<p>The girlfriend issue complicates things. One concern is that you two could be very dependent on each other, and also potentially break up. It would be best for each of you to have your own interests and friends. Maybe each of you living at your own college, and seeing each other on weekends, is a way for each of you to grow and also to continue the relationship if you choose to. </p>
<p>Make the choice that you would make if she was not in the picture. </p>
<p>Romani, you basically said what I meant in one sentence. ^:)^ I applaud you!!</p>
<p>^ LOL. I’ve been giving the same advice since I was in this predicament. I used to type out a long response but realize that it all boils down to that. </p>
<p>What romani said! Basically either a) it’s meant to be, your love will survive the distance or b) you’re not meant to be, in which case it worked out fine that you didn’t move for her. </p>
<p>There’s an old line that I really like that goes along with @rebeccar said. “If you love someone, set them free, if they come back to you, they are yours. If they don’t, they never were.”</p>
<p>Well first of all what school would you choose if your girlfriend wasn’t your girlfriend? </p>
<p>Who is paying your tuition? If you’re paying for all of it do you mind spending $5,000 extra for the next four years? That’s $20,000! Would this be a problem for you? Or if your family is paying for it would they mind spending that same amount so you can be with your girlfriend? </p>
<p>I think its sweet that you love her and don’t want to lose her. But lets say you go to college with her and break up a year or 4 years later? Would following her to college still have been worth it to you? Would you care that you lost between $5,000-$20,000? Would you care that you didn’t attend too good of a school? </p>
<p>Also this is just my opinion, but let’s say your parent’s do not want to pay an extra 5k a year. (If they are paying your tuition. I’m just assuming that they are. Obviously I have no idea if your parents are paying for your tuition or what their financial situation is.) If you chose your girlfriends school over your parent’s financial wishes then I think that’s kinda selfish of you. College costs a lot more than love! Sorry to be so blunt. I’m not trying to be rude!! I’m sorry if it’s coming out that way.</p>
<p>I believe in soul mates. But like the others said, “If you love someone, set them free, if they come back to you, they are yours. If they don’t, they never were.” Long-distance CAN WORK. If it’s meant to be. If the love between you and your girlfriend is meant to be then it will always last. Don’t go to college for love. Go for a degree. </p>