<p>I was admitted to one of my top choice colleges with 11k in merit aid, making it the least expensive option for me. Academically, it's the best school I got into, but there are some cons: not a fan of the food, 6 hour plane ride from home, and don't quite click with the student body. Also, my boyfriend of about 1.5 years is currently a freshman there, and I'm curious to hear your pros/cons on this.</p>
<p>If going to school with your boyfriend is a con…then dump him…</p>
<p>agree with above poster</p>
<p>Going there simply because the GF/BF is there is a very dumb idea. If you’re going for the education and the GF/BF happens to be here…well that makes it a bit tricker :/. Go with you’re gut.</p>
<p>1) What are your other options?
2) “not a fan of the food” is really not that big a deal.
3) “6 hour plane ride from home” is meh, I think.
4) “don’t quite click with the student body” is a tremendous deal, but your feelings might change once you are on campus.</p>
<p>Lastly, the boyfriend thing is probably a pro, because at least you know somebody there already who knows people. Assuming you guys won’t last, and the breakup is messy, the college is probably big enough you can avoid them for the most part, but it’s probably worth a shot if you think you and he might have a future. Or if you can think of him as a very good friend, which I know happens.</p>
<p>It’s not a con haha, it’s definitely a pro cause he’s my best friend but I’m worried that having him there could keep me from making a lot of friends at the beginning of the year plus if we ever broke up I would run into him all the time.
To the above post, it’s the latter situation, so yea, it’s tricky. My gut is giving pretty mixed feelings.</p>
<p>The other top choice is an all girls’ school about an hour’s flight from home (though it’s part of a co-ed consortium). I’m pretty close to my extended family so it would be nice to be able to come home for weekends on occasion. Awesome food, pretty comparable in academics, perhaps a slightly better social fit, but paying full tuition. Also, its reputation for grad school is slightly lower than the boyfriend’s school.</p>
<p>If you do decide to go to the school, then tell him you would like a “break” for about two to three weeks. And by “break” I mean, keep the contact to a decent minimum so you can concentrate on making friends on your own and having a feel for the campus. After about that time, you’ll be fairly familiar with your roommates/floormates, the surroundings, classes, etc. and then you two can pick back up, with him slowly introducing you to his friends while you maintain the ones you’ve gotten to know through your floor/classes/etc. :)</p>
<p>I have a friend ( a freshman) who goes to a school and got a boyfriend pretty quickly there. They are still going out, but he is a senior and mostly hangs out with fellow seniors/juniors, so guess who she spends all of her time with? 
Frankly, I think she missed out on some very crucial “bonding” with her fellow roommates and freshman who she could relate to (new experiences, dorming for the first time, etc.). </p>
<p>By the end of this year, her boyfriend will no longer be going to school there, while she’ll (hopefully) be there for another three, and who will she turn to?</p>
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I doubt you’re going to take a hour flight very often (or a 6 hour train/bus ride). Might be once a month, if that. </p>
<p>It doesn’t like the social fit at the all-girl’s school is a lot different than your bf’s school. I love food, food is wonderful, but depending on where the other school is (and meal plans), you can pretty much eat off campus. I really wouldn’t make that a primary factor.</p>
<p>But I think your gut is telling you to go to the all-girls school except that your bf goes to the other one. However, I don’t see a clear-cut reason to go to the all-girls school.</p>
<p>“2) “not a fan of the food” is really not that big a deal.” </p>
<p>I totally disagree with that. It might be fine if you’re really not picky, sure, but otherwise it’s a huge quality of life issue. I went to a school where I was thought the food was okay when I tried it, and it was fine for about three months, but then it started to get really old. I started to get nauseous about the prospect of eating at the dining halls, and the meat was such poor quality that I went from having abnormally high blood iron to being borderline anemic in a couple months. I also got mild food poisoning a couple times. </p>
<p>I still get sick to my stomach when I recall the taste of some of the food. If someone put a plate of the dining hall scrambled eggs in front of me right now it’d be like Fear Factor.</p>
<p>As for the OP’s question, I don’t think that you should rule out a school because your boyfriend goes there, but don’t choose a school you wouldn’t choose in any other circumstance because your boyfriend goes there. After that, the important thing is establishing your own support system and social network once you get that independent of your boyfriend. The size of the school also makes a difference. I attend Binghamton University, which is a reasonably large school but not crazy huge either. There are people that I know who attend the school that I have never run into on campus. Now, I don’t live on campus so that narrows my odds somewhat, but the point is that if you and your boyfriend break up, odds are you won’t see him around all of the time. If you do it will be in passing and not too awkward, unless you live in the same dorm or have the same really specific major or something.</p>