<p>Why is paying for your date viewed so negatively? Of course, I don't mind paying for my own movie tickets/food, but it's nice when the guy does it, especially on the first date, and especially when he was the one who intiated it. Later on, you can start splitting the price of outings, but will you really go broke after one or two dates?</p>
<p>Lol nyuwishabee, my heart goes out to you! I probably would have done the same thing :)</p>
<p>I agree with olgita. </p>
<p>On a first date, I wouldn't mind suggesting we go dutch, but -call me old fashioned, I think it's nice if a guy pays for a first date.</p>
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<p>"Let's go out to dinner, I know the perfect place" we go, we sit down, we look at the menu, in your opinion, this place is wayy to expensive, you would never have chosen it. Are you going to honestly say "can we go somewhere else, this place is too expensive." I mean you could, but it would be extremely awkward, and I think it's kind of rude to do something like that at that point (maybe I think this because I also know how the other person is thinking). Because YOU asked her out and YOU chose the place, I don't think it's fair to assume she's going to pay her way.</p>
<p>Now I guess that example is a bit extreme becaus not only did you choose the place but you didn't even tell her what it was before you got there. If you're really hoping to go dutch, you need to at least throw out an "is this place ok?" so that if it's too expensive, she can make up a reason why she doesnt want to go there.</p>
<p>No matter how little you can afford to pay for the date, there is always the chance your date could afford it less. For me, I've always seen this as a potentially awkward situation that I'd rather avoid, which is why I simply only suggest/choose restaurants with prices I know I can treat her to or less.
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<p>I had just forgotten that some guys out there actually take girls out to "nice" places on first dates. I think I heard about one of my cousin's friend's friends once doing this, but I'm not sure. If I took a girl out to a reasonably nice place and paid for her, it would be a sign of affection for her long after we've known each other, and not as part of the courting process. The most I've ever spent on a date is $40, taking my MRXGF out to dinner this Saturday (first time we saw each other in months after breaking off an LDR, amazing weekend).</p>
<p>I see dates as an opportunity for the girl to see how awesome I am and like me for who I am. A $10 diner meal or an $8 movie that she pays for herself will do the trick.</p>
<p>I hope all you guys out there spend loads of money on girls on your first dates. It'll stimulate the economy and allow me to fade your tactics better.</p>
<p>dude, girls aren't digging for gold in college. </p>
<p>You have to be really ugly or have no personality to need money to get girls when you're college age. Learn how to hit on/interact with girls instead of reverting to some old fashioned courting. </p>
<p>I have a friend that's out of college, dates college girls in NY, and THEY pay for his stuff with daddies credit card.</p>
<p>wutangfinancial......gonichiwa *****es</p>
<p>I once went on a double-date with a professor that I was subletting from. My date was one of his students and I guess. I had no clue about dating other than going out with friends. I think that it was a banquet, maybe for awards. So he basically led. We stopped off at a jewelry store to buy gifts - I think that I spent about $79 or $119 on a bracelet (think twice that in today's dollars). We both wore suits of course.</p>
<p>I didn't realize until much later, how much of an impression jewelry can make.</p>
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<p>If by "how much of an impression jewelry can make," you mean "how effective lowering a girl's self-esteem can be," then I totally have had a similar epiphany.</p>
<p>i'd be like hells yeah lets go on another date
this time lets go to henri bendel</p>
<p>henri bendel is for the cheap</p>
<p>"If by "how much of an impression jewelry can make," you mean "how effective lowering a girl's self-esteem can be," then I totally have had a similar epiphany."</p>
<p>I think that traditional relationships are lost on the current generation.</p>
<p>I applaud the women on this thread who think that it's appropriate to share the cost of dating. To me, women who expect men to pay for everything on a date are no better than men who expect sex from women because they've paid for everything on a date. Now, if either party wants to pay for everything now and then, particularly on a special occasion, that's fine too.</p>
<p>I'm a guy and was raised to hold the door for women and pay for a meal, to me it comes natural. Theres a difference between being a gentlemen and being a doormat.</p>
<p>"I applaud the women on this thread who think that it's appropriate to share the cost of dating. To me, women who expect men to pay for everything on a date are no better than men who expect sex from women because they've paid for everything on a date."</p>
<p>That's a lot different today too. Back then you waited for marriage. At least many did.</p>
<p>as long as women are still making 77 cents to every dollar a man makes, i will be accepting all jewelry and dinner donations.</p>
<p>^ And if you happen to make more than the man you're dating, would that still be your view?</p>
<p>^^^ and I'll stay away from selfish women like you for the rest of my life :)</p>
<p>i was just kiiiidding geez.</p>
<p>and yeah i make more than the guy i'm currently seeing. i just bought his movie ticket and a sandwich and i gave him a book on kama sutra. oh what now.</p>
<p>^Ok, ok, you're forgiven. :-)</p>
<p>lol :)</p>
<p>In all honesty, I think gold digging is more common in older people in their second or third marriage. We're all just bums in college.</p>