<p>I live with two girls I met in the dorms, and I would recommend this only because you get a chance to see what they are like in terms of both personality and living styles. I would not live with people you don’t know very well, even if they seem nice, because signing a lease for a whole year with those people is a pretty significant decision. I chose girls who were smart and responsible, with no discernible money problems. I was initially looking to live with more of my friends, in a house or large apartment, but we as a group ended up in two nearby apartments rather than one house. </p>
<p>I think it is easier to live with fewer people, but I’ve never experienced living with many roommates other than in the dorms. My roommates and I share small expenses and food items like milk, eggs, flour, sugar, and toilet paper, and we don’t really feel the need to keep track of who is spending more or less because we ultimately trust each other to pitch in. At my boyfriend’s house of twice as many people, for comparison, no one is willing to share any food items beyond spices, no one takes responsibility for cleaning, and they frequently run out of supplies like toilet paper and dish detergent because no one wants to pay more than their share. It is hard to pinpoint who is not doing their share when there are many roommates, whereas I can gently remind one of my roommates that they haven’t done the dishes lately, if necessary. I’m sure that more than three or four people could happily live together if they were all willing to do their fair share, and no one felt slighted, but that can be hard to achieve.</p>
<p>When you are picking out a place to live, and people to live with, the most important thing is to make sure everyone wants the same thing. If you want a quiet apartment, and your friend wants to throw frequent parties, you are best remaining friends, and not roommates. Same goes for people who want to live “family-style” with a lot of sharing, vs. people who just want to handle their own things, and only pay for what they use. Make sure everyone knows how they are going to pay the rent and utilities, and don’t lend money to your roommates. Plan ahead, and several weeks before moving in together, figure out who can bring what, and what is left that needs to be purchased, and by who. There is no point in moving in, and realizing that while you have two microwaves, you have no dishes. </p>
<p>Also, while I did not mention this before, somehow a lot of students don’t realize that leases are for 12 months, not the 9 we are in school. Make sure your potential roommates know that you will all still have to pay rent and utilities during the summer, even if no one is living in the apartment. You can plan to look for subletters if you will not be using your apartment for the summer, but I wouldn’t count on finding one, since the supply of available rooms to sublet is always much higher than the demand.</p>