<p>I saw someone posted that gossip in college is different than gossip in high school. </p>
<p>Well, how is it different?</p>
<p>People have better things to do than gossip, and it doesn’t extend beyond friend groups if it does happen, because there’s so many people there that won’t know who you are or care what you do.</p>
<p>I’m going to say if you stay outside of the frats/sororities that you skip 98% of any drama in college unless you have some stupid friends who want attention.</p>
<p>I don’t hear about rumors and whatnot as much as I used to in high school. The rumors I hear about are like “Well, there was this homeless guy who wandered onto campus” or “There was someone talking about a wizard high as heck in the bathroom” (true story). Nothing like “Oh did you know so and so slept with so and so?”</p>
<p>That would be me that said it. The main difference is that it really doesn’t exist as much in college. People have better things to do than put up with petty crap like that.</p>
<p>I’m probably in the minority, but I encountered WAY more drama in my first year of college than I did in all of high school. My high school friends (mostly girls) were pretty much all drama free. My college friends (a mix of guys and girls) had lots and lots of drama.</p>
<p>Gossip wise, I guess my high school was bad because there were only 120 students in the entire high school, so stuff went around really fast. But I’m not in a sorority or involved in any super social scenes and there’s still a lot of gossip that goes around. It’s just mainly in my friend group though or in my major department. (My major only has about 80 students). It’s probably about the same as it was in high school.</p>
<p>The main difference that I’ve seen is that people care less about the gossip going around about them, so I guess it’s less hurtful.</p>
<p>But that’s just my perspective.</p>
<p>Yes and no.</p>
<p>If you go to a big school, then you’re not going to have that “everybody knows” factor when it comes to gossip. Gossip you encounter is going to be very contained, just within your circle of friends depending on how large or small that is.</p>
<p>So it’s nice to be able to go to class and know that there’s close to 0 chance that anyone around you is going to know about the embarrassing thing you did last night. But at the same time… when you come back to your dorm and go to dinner with your friends, chances are all of them will know whether they were eyewitnesses or not.</p>
<p>If you have a close circle of friends & have musical dating partners, there are a significant number of rumors. If you breakf free from that, the rumors are much less likely to circulate. My 1st year as a transfer student, I fell into the 1st category & it was very awkward. Thereafter, I expanded my social circle and didn’t have to deal with the drama my friend and I dating different people who were close friends–too awkward and tiring for my tastes.</p>
<p>it will be different if you want it to be different.
You are older now. You don’t need to confide every single thought that flits through your brains to your BFFs. Develop a filter. The filter cuts gossip way down. You won’t be providing fodder for gossip. Especially if you use your new filter to keep yourself from passing on anything that is told to you…</p>
<p>^^^ What do you mean developing a filter?</p>
<p>^^^Think before you speak.</p>