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<p>Yea, I know that. They havent done one since the 7th grade though. The next one will be the first for high school and that's with the Spanish teacher, someone who I would never ask for rec. letters.</p>
<p>yeah basically it sucks having asian parents.
whenever i tell them about a college that is NOT HYPS, they automatically say "why the **** would you apply there? those schools suck"</p>
<p>and if you haven't already gathered from this thread, no amount of evidence will change their attitudes. about anything. it's like arguing with a rock.</p>
<p>they still have this grand fantasy that I'm gonna go to Harvard and become a lawyer and make lots of money for them. pity...</p>
<p>and really, when kids say how asians just study and don't have social lives, it's not really our fault. you need not look farther than our parents. Im never able to go out because they believe that the only purpose i have in HS is to get good grades and go to HYPS. I ran away from home once to make a stand...didn't work out so well.
you may tell us that we're weak and don't stand up to our parents, but that's not true. things are out of our control. for example, if i don't do what my parents want, they stop paying for anything but the bare essentials-food, shelter, and clothing. and then you can't get a job because they won't allow it.</p>
<p>it. really. sucks. can't wait till i get the **** outta here.</p>
<p>I'm really thankful my parents are not so uptight even though they are Asians. =[ I feel bad for you, Ravi. =.= I can't believe they will ship you off to India just because of B's. =/ That sux Xe<em>Ln</em>Ag_A! ><; I hope you will be happy with your college choice. o.o You are definately going to apply to a college that is not HYPS right?</p>
<p>ty, punk, fr the sympathy. just 7 more months...</p>
<p>yeah. they're one of those parents that have no clue how to apply to colleges either, and the only ivy leagues im applying to are UPenn and Brown. im another one of those asians that hate math/science, and love the humanities/art.
recently, i've been secretly private tutoring kids at the school library after school to make money to buy "unecessary things" like new clothes.</p>
<p>=] Yay! I hate science. ><; I despise science with a passion! That's great that you are tutoring. LOL New clothes are necessary things. =] What type of art are you into?</p>
<p>wow, Ravi! My parents say that if I get any B's they are shipping me to India (I am in serious doubt as to whether they are serious)
- If my father catches me sleeping, he says "stop wasting your time! You can sleep senior year. Right now, study." I sleep about 4 hours a night :(</p>
<p>Yay!!!!! I despise science too!!!</p>
<p>But I openly hate science lol. I already told my mom flat out "I hate science so leave me alone. Engineering? Medicine? IN YOUR DREAMS!!!!" She was crushed but whatever. Save myself first.</p>
<p>Their job isn't to tell me how to live my life, their job is to feed, clothe and generally provide for me and support whatever I want to do.</p>
<p>"wow, Ravi! My parents say that if I get any B's they are shipping me to India (I am in serious doubt as to whether they are serious)
- If my father catches me sleeping, he says "stop wasting your time! You can sleep senior year. Right now, study." I sleep about 4 hours a night "</p>
<p>yea, good luck on getting into harvard and then getting your admission rescind.</p>
<p>Niice. Now I know what's in store for me.</p>
<p>I told my mom I got a 98 on my English exam. Guesss what she said, her initial reaction! "What did you get wrong?" Lovely.</p>
<p>A friend just got into UPenn and my (Asian) mom was literally like, "Don't believe that, he's lying," "Don't congratulate him," and "You have to get into a better university." </p>
<p>I couldn't believe my ears!</p>
<p>You don't have to take student loans. You can go to a school that gives you scholarship or a school that lets you work and earn your own tuition.</p>
<p>a778999 - Wow, that's amazing, what your mom said. Does she have any reason?</p>
<p>My parent are pretty open-minded. It all started when they discovered that my sister's strengths lie straight-down in the humanities area. We still giggle about how her SAT scores were so un-Asian. She majored in pre-med for a while (because she had wanted to), but later changed to psychology and she LOVES it. I, on the other hand, am typically Asian where my strengths are concerned, but I have no interest in majoring in pre-med, and I don't feel any pressure from my parents to do so.</p>
<p>"A friend just got into UPenn and my (Asian) mom was literally like, "Don't believe that, he's lying," "Don't congratulate him," and "You have to get into a better university." </p>
<p>Can you say "Jealousy?" lol : )</p>
<p>LOL Gotta love Asian parents...</p>
<p>my chinese parents use to be like that but they've finally come back to reality. they recognize that i'm smart and want me to go to an ivy but realized in the end that it is my decision. i'm 99.9% sure about choosing umich, which is also an awesome school and even dwarfs the ivies in several majors. furthermore, i hope ur parents realize that not all ivies are made the same. i mean come on, cornell specializes in hotel management and agricultural. yeaaaaaa i'm not paying $45K a year to be farmer jack. i'm extremely fortunate that i'm michigan instate so great education at a HUGE discount. its like finding ur favorite designer shirt/handbag/shoes or w/e for 2/3 off (instate michigan residents only pay 1/3 of out of state tuition). realize that washu is also a great place for med and better than cornell or even columbia or MIT/CalTech is the place to be for math, science, computer stuff. so moral of the story, ivies=overrated.</p>
<p>mich girl- You have just uttered the mother of all swearwords to CCers! What, ivies overrated, what?</p>
<p>SARCASM AT WORK</p>
<p>As a fellow Asian I feel bad for you...yeah that sucks...my parents are seriously nothing like that (well, I mean they're obsessed with college, but not forceful), despite the whole Asian parent stereotype. If you don't think you're right for Harvard, then that's the end of the story. You'll be going to college, not your dad.</p>
<p>demeter: I guess that's just the Asian mentality. </p>
<p>Even worse, his mother (also Asian), after not having talked to my mother for 5 years, looked me up on facebook for my phone number to call her to brag about her son and to make me feel bad because I didn't apply anywhere ED. As a "cherry on top," she also saw my address and told my mom, "You still live in an apartment in [poor town]? You'll never be able to afford a house in [the richer city she lives in]," and saw a picture of my brother and said, "wow, what an ugly kid"</p>
<p>What a witch! Now I know why my mom has that attitude.</p>
<p>Ok now that I got into NYU ED my mom's pretty much off my back but she's like "study study study if you don't you might get rescinded" I'm like way to rain on my parade dude...come on NYU won't rescind unless I start getting Cs and Ds and Fs or something...not because my GPA fell from a 3.54 to a 3.50 geez and I know better than to completely slack off...:(</p>
<p>Anyway now she starts yelling at my sister, who's 12, about how she's "behind" in math or whatever and my mom is going to argue with the principal at her school to get her placed into algebra 1 or whatever...well she's not really a math/science person...seriously she's into drama and stuff and I think it's a good thing. Seriously my mom's like "quit the play, just do violin and study math all the time" I'm like way to feed the stereotype...you wonder why everyone else stereotypes against Asians. Well there's the reason...I swear to god parents should take a class on communication when they decide to have kids or something. I know she means well for my sister, but telling her to quit the school play and everything else she loves doing to do math? And 1 B and my mom freaks the hell out. "OMG YOU'RE NOT GONNA GET INTO IVY" Gee, I didn't know they looked at middle school transcripts for college....</p>
<p>Anyway and I tell her my friend's applying to Bowdoin and her first response is "How come she didn't apply to ivies?" LOL </p>
<p>Thank god I'm going to college in New York...</p>
<p>Isn't 7th and 8th grade like the time to slack off and get that out of your system before 9th grade when it actually counts, unless you're applying to prep school? I swear to god my mom thinks that colleges look at only grades and scores. If they only look at those two why do they ask about all the other stuff? LOL the insanity of asian parents...seriously my mom wasn't like this BEFORE I got into NYU ED. She was pretty open, even though she had a disposition to be OCD at times...but now to my sister she's like "get A+ in math or quit school" OMG since when was A+ the only acceptable grade? </p>
<p>She used to be like "why can't u get straight As? u CAN" well I CAN in theory but just like any other human being I sometimes **** up!!!! Geez, I wanted to ask her if SHE got straight As...and she always whines about how I suck at science, well you know what? she failed chemistry too.</p>
<p>The heck? :(</p>
<p>You guys...seriously. I'm shaking my head incredulously at the moment.</p>
<p>My parents, as you might have seen in the other thread, are lax. Sure, they don't like to see me under-achieve, but they seem more worried about me over-achieving if I have to relinquish health and happiness. They'd rather see me get a "B", or even a "C", than to see me tired or discontent. In fact, I was nearly inconsolable after getting a "B" in English (by no lack of ability of my own, mind - the class is just unbelievably tilted towards irrelevant projects), and my mom hugged me, said I did my best, treated me to my favorite dinner (no mean feat, seeing as how it takes a whole day to prepare), and said she was beyond proud of me...</p>
<p>It does bear mentioning that I don't have to work as hard as most to get decent grades. Before junior year, I'd had to study perhaps twice a year. :p Inherited the smart genes from my dad, I did. :D</p>
<p>And here I thought the stereotype of strict Asian parents was strange. Seems like my family is the one out of the norm. :(</p>
<p>futurenyustudent, how flagrantly irreverent! Even if (or though, I suppose) my parents coerced me using physical force, I would never speak of them that way! They love me, care for me, and I owe EVERYTHING, including my very LIFE to them! Unless they REALLY wrong me somehow, I'll always respect them!</p>
<p>But, maybe that is because of how unerringly supportive they have always been...</p>
<p>Sorry. It just rubbed me the wrong way, and I can't understand it. I'm not going to change what I wrote, though, since the sentiment behind it is still there.</p>