<p>My parents used to ban all non-science related books around the house (they called them "fun books"). And then I recalled them saying something like "books can be their [kids'] friends." I'm glad most of this happened before I was born. :D</p>
<p>^That's funny. Hahaha. (Can you tell I'm psyched for school tomorrow?)</p>
<p>I expressed an interest in those summer programs and maybe taking a philosophy class. She said to take math. Don't get me wrong, I'm a freaky math girl-nerd. But I thought I could do something, I dunno, fun in summertime.</p>
<p>Yeah, I remember always having to go to Camp Invention, etc. in summer and doing programming and Chinese school on Saturday mornings. At least the summer stuff helped get me into higher classes.
The problem with parents forcing you to do stuff is it makes you despise both them and the subject, which never gives good results when your parents can't control you anymore.</p>
<p>I'm Asian...</p>
<p>My parents don't really care; I do all my things on my own. They never urged me to study for SATs, and I applied where I wanted. It's weird when I read these types of stories because I know a lot of people that receive the same "advice" if you will.</p>
<p>Hmm, Well I'm looking at Eng Lit Major...and I'm definitely a humanity/art student (and not like business/econ humanity, like Chaucer/Shakespeare humanities =P) Ah well, I tell them Eng Lit is great for applying to Law School/ business school later/ keeps options open, better to get high GPA in etc. Delaying Heart Break until I apply for Columbia Journalism School or carry on Eng Lit =P Well another thing if parents really want their kids to get into top unis...then being another asian applying for biology which they half feel for...isn't the way to do it...</p>
<p>Hah. I'm Asian (well, Indian), and: a) my mum thinks that my 2320 SAT is a miserably poor score, because I had the temerity to *lose 80 points<a href="the%20horror!">/i</a>, b) my parents disapprove of my intended math major because it isn't an applied science (which are apparently the only subjects worth studying), c) I'm actively discouraged from writing (my favourite thing in the world besides calculus) because it isn't 'productive' and won't get me anywhere, and d) if I don't get into MIT/Princeton/something I probably won't be supported through my education. I've been pushed into doing everything two years early (I'm a twelfth-grade student. I'm fifteen.), and am still grounded if I dare to be anything under third in my class.</p>
<p>Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and I love to learn. But sometimes the expectations are a bit overwhelming. Ah, Asians.</p>
<p>OLD'D.</p>
<p>Love bumping old threads much? Reviving the specter of a dead horse. Please let this thread die.</p>
<p>I'm Asian and I have family who have graduated/work from/for H,Y,Penn, and other top schools in Asia and Australia. Also, majority of the family are doctors or scientists, but I'm never pressured to apply to Ivy colleges or become a doctor/scientist. My mom doesn't want me to be a doctor, hehe. I'm going into business... w/ a health care concentration though. xD lol.</p>
<p>I have empathy for other Asians (and other non-Asians). </p>
<p>"We shall over come"</p>
<p>I myself am Asian. When I used to live with my grandparents when I was little, they would keep on showing me these newspaper articles of 7 year olds that graduated from college and stuff (I exaggerate, but stories along those lines). They told me that if I get into an Ivy, they would buy me a car. Now, my older brother went to JHU, and he got a car, so I hope they hold out for me too!</p>
<p>My parent are a little different, but they're like stereotypical asian parents nonetheless. My mom hardly ever urges me about colleges but she focuses on what I do now. She literally calls me every day within an hour after school ends and asks if I finished all of my homework. She's never pushed about colleges much, she's more of a motivator so that may be a bit different. Of course she always asks me to read more. My mom does push me to advance in my ECs, but I find that more beneficial. </p>
<p>My father on the other hand has always applied the "you better do good" attitude, praising my sister's 100 in Spanish I, but scolding me for getting a 94 in Geometry, completely ignoring my 100 in Spanish III. I think he expects too much from me. This year, he really changed and became a stereotypical asian parent. He is super concerned about my SAT scores and my grades. And he always compares me to other asians in my grade. "Blah blah isn't doing community service, why are you wasting your time when you should be studying!" He expects too much and sets impossible standards.</p>
<p>Luckily, my mom offset my dad so my social life hasn't suffered completely. And I honestly never study, I cram before tests and AP Exams, but my dad, who sees me probably 2 hours a day, scolds me for playing a video game or going out instead of studying.</p>
<p>I feel like the luckiest asian kid in the world because my parents don't match any of the description here.
I was born really weak and they say that's it's even miracle that I'm so healty now. they want me to be happy.
My dad is a little bit conservative, not strict.</p>
<p>But the thing is, my brother's some kind of genius and went to KAIST(you can say it's MIT in Korea).
So they thought I will go there "eventually".
However I told them that I want to study international politics and they just let me. isn't it amazing?
Maybe it's just a-little-daugter-who-was-born-weak-effect or something</p>
<p>The fact that you are both Korean and female probably has something to do with your parents' disposition as well.</p>
<p>Mom: "Go to Dook or Chap Heel!" (Duke or Chapel Hill)</p>
<p>I'm half, luckily. I don't have to deal with two of them yapping at me, lol.</p>
<p>My mom's not bad, though. She just has unrealistic expectations of me. I like being normal and having a social life.</p>
<p>Well, my parents are kinda different. For asian kids now a days, most of their parents are teriyaki shop owners, laundry place owners, and other stereotypical careers. this is because there was a HUGE asian immigration boom half a generation ago, and it is EXTREMELY difficult to adjust to the US cultures, educational system, and most of all... the english language. But my father, who has an IQ of 150, went to the UW, got a bachelor's degree in Civil engineering, and now owns his own business related to Civil Engineering. And now here's me, with an IQ of 148, born here in sweet ol' America, and born into a now wealthy family because of my dad. So what would my parents expect?....... Stanford, Johns Hopkins, Caltech... blah blah blah.</p>
<p>So i guess my parent's stereotypical asian expectations are reasonable. but i am sure another half generation later, we'll be seeing alot of asians dominating the businesses they are in, and we won't be seeing alot of teriyaki shop owners who are actually asian. Cause asians will be owning hospitals, businesses, and other succesful business endeavors.</p>
<p>So if i ever do get mad at my parent's high expectations, i have no policy to say to my parents, especailly my father, "Well, why the h*ell are you a teriyaki shop owner huh? Why aren't YOU a doctor? Why didn't YOU go to harvard?". If i did, my dad would probably literally kill me afterwards.</p>
<p>I'm not asian but I do have friends who has parents like that (I live in the international student dorm and we get a lot of students from S. Korea). MY mom on the other hand (I live in Michigan) said you're going to Michigan State University or University of Michigan, since I didn't want to go out of state. She went as far as saying "You're applying to Wayne State? You might as well go to a community college". Which is kinda mean but WSU is considered 4th tier I think and I filled it out just for the hell of it anyway. Also, she didn't even graduate from high school, so I was thinking *** ? That's like a truck driver telling a doctor how to operate on someone. After that (I got accepted to all 3 btw, along with Eastern and Central) she didn't care to ask how I was doing in school after I decided ---> Go Green! My dad is cool about everything he says he doesn't ask because he said "he doesn't have to worry about me" which is true. My mom has never even been to campus (I'm a 2nd yr). So at least you're fortunate enough to have parents that care enough to ask what you want/will to do, even though they might overdo it :)</p>
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<p>I like how people casually drop their IQ in conversations where it has no actual relevance.</p>
<p>Hmmm...sometimes I wish I had the typical Asian parents. I want to go to an elite American school but my parents are totally unsupportive and are like "why can't you just go to a local Canadian school like everyone else?".</p>
<p>"So if i ever do get mad at my parent's high expectations, i have no policy to say to my parents, especailly my father, "Well, why the h*ell are you a teriyaki shop owner huh? Why aren't YOU a doctor? Why didn't YOU go to harvard?". If i did, my dad would probably literally kill me afterwards."</p>
<p>Do it!</p>
<p>How do I convince my parents that I may not want to be a doctor, and that there are more useful majors outside of the sciences, engineering, math, and economics?</p>