<p>what do u really want to be Venkat?!</p>
<p>Remind them that after you're 18, they have no legal dominion over you.</p>
<p>My dad cares what happens to us, but he doesn't get in our face about it. my mom carestoo, but she does. They prod us to do better, but they've never abused us (physically or verbally) over a bad grade. My mom INSISTS that we study (like, everyday after homework,e ven when we have no tests in our sights), but we don't -- and we still bring home As.</p>
<p>How much are you letting your parents wishes get to you? My mom has said "Doctor, doctor", I say "12 years! 12 years!" She says "Be rich!" I say "I can live on 40K". And I'm not dead yet.</p>
<p>Just ignore them...after a while they'll stop bugging you. My mom used to be like "Doctor Doctor" I said "um...no. Too bad" and she gets all bitter every time we go to the doctor because with an econ degree "I'm going to have to work to be successful" wow...I didn't know that an MD was a guarentee of success...then how come nobody on the Fortune 400 list is a doctor? Huh? </p>
<p>And you can't actually PRACTICE medicine until you take and pass the USMLE. Just ignore them because med school isn't an automatic ticket to wealth. If you want wealth go into corporate law or wall street.</p>
<p>I hate having asian( indian) parents. My dad is practically deciding what he wants me to do - doctor or engineer? I hate COMPUTERS! and biology is the most boring thing on earth (for me anyway).</p>
<p>My dad wants me to take over his consulting company. I think when I turn 18 and get into the college of my dreams, I will just do an econ major (which is infinitely better than engineer - anything is better than engineer, even doctor)</p>
<p>Yea, turning 18 is great and all, but I'm not made of money, so I NEED my parents to pay for my college tuition. The good part about going to a college on a full ride is that you could take loans for travel and earn spending money over the summer and still have very manageable debt compared to taking out at least 50k a year to pay for college because your parents don't believe that a degree in history is going to get you anywhere. </p>
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I hate having asian( indian) parents. My dad is practically deciding what he wants me to do - doctor or engineer? I hate COMPUTERS! and biology is the most boring thing on earth (for me anyway).</p>
<p>My dad wants me to take over his consulting company. I think when I turn 18 and get into the college of my dreams, I will just do an econ major (which is infinitely better than engineer - anything is better than engineer, even doctor)
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How are you supposed to take over his firm with an MD? You would probably be best off with an econ/business degree for your undergrad if you know you are going to work for your dad. He must be insane if he wants you to be a doctor when you could be earning so much more working for his consulting firm. Then again, consulting firms recruit at med schools...</p>
<p>I know, sometimes his logic only makes sense to him...</p>
<p>I wouldn't work for my dad....working for your parents makes you yet dependent on them except, they're your bosses and they sign your paycheck so you can't **** them off. Work for another firm...:)</p>
<p>haha, this entire thread is so funny, and a bit sad.
My parents don't push me; they just expect. Expectations are different than pushing in a way.</p>
<p>papercrane that is a great way to put it...my parents also "Expect" a LOT but don't really "push" me per se. Disappointment and expectations.</p>
<p>my parents are RIDICULOUS when it comes to expectations and comparing me to other indian kids. to be honest, my dad is pretty much the reason im leaving for philadelphia from miami for college. he drives me insane. (he's also bipolar tho, so when he doesnt take his meds...)</p>
<p>my dad wanted to go to pton - how bout im going to its bball rival school just so i can run around yelling 'princeton sucks' to **** him off. lol. he said if i wasnt at a school in the top 10 of the US come september, he'd marry me off. and he was dead serious. So No Pressure, eh?</p>
<p>to top it all off, im not a bio major. i wanna major in south asian studies & then kinda see if i like the idea of being premed. my parents laughed at this. i said i wanted to continue dance in college - they laughed at that too. they feel dance (for the last 13 yrs of my life) has been a complete waste of my time. they dont even come to my shows & recitals b/c they think i shud be studying instead. </p>
<p>sometimes, i feel like the only way to make my mother happy (shes never satisfied) is to get an M.D. Expectations are so g*damn overrated.</p>
<p>I'm over pleasing my parents. They'll never be pleased. They'll always demand more out of you.</p>
<p>Whenever my parents try to get me to please them nowadays, I spew a crapload of philosophical arguments at them, like how man is free and how I am my own person and how if they didn't think I was mature enough to make my own decisions they shouldn't have let me go to college two years early. That usually shuts them up pretty fast.</p>
<p>I mean, what's the worst thing they can do? Cut off my Internet? I know more about computers than they do now. Take away my car keys? I don't have them. Ban me from calling my friends? It's called Facebook, see point number one.</p>
<p>My parents think I'm a curse. Apparently, the worst possible comibination of their genes just happened to come together eighteen years ago, and spawned me.</p>
<p>Also, they just told me this morning that I'm not allowed to go over to my boyfriend's house to tie-dye shirts, while his mother will be home the entire time, because all teenagers think about is sex, and "American" parents are totally okay with that - according to "American" culture.</p>
<p>What the eff.</p>
<p>well, at least you get to have a boyfriend</p>
<p>"haha, this entire thread is so funny, and a bit sad.
My parents don't push me; they just expect. Expectations are different than pushing in a way."--I complete second this post and I'm in this condition. However, sometimes I feel like the expectation exceeds its limits and at times it seems like they r pushing me thru bestowing such expectations.</p>
<p>You know what sucks about having Asian parents? The bilinguial part. It's impossible to win an argument, at least for me.</p>
<p>You, the child, speak English as your primary language, and only enough of your parents' language to communicate. Your parents speak their mother tongue perfectly, and have slightly faulty English.</p>
<p>When you communicate, it's only respectful that you stoop lower and speak the language you're less competent in.</p>
<p>When you try and debate with your parents, it's impossible to win because you can't express yourself quite as well as you could in English. You can't argue in English because your parents won't understand what you're saying if your language is too complex, so you'll either have to tone it down to baby words or your parents will assume you didn't say anything of significance.</p>
<p>ha ha (not for me at all though :D)</p>
<p>lol i hear ya on the language thing.
when i try & argue in "complex" english, my dad says im giving him sass b/c i think i'm smarter/better than them since i was educated here.
that really hurts, man. i respect my parents & i love my mom but why do they always suspect the worst of me?</p>