<p>my parents: we understand that you may not meet all our expectations, and we realize that it's important for you to be happy, so it's ok if you go to brown instead of harvard. </p>
<p><em>sigh</em> i'm not getting into brown.</p>
<p>I've actually heard the exact same thing about Brown being an acceptable alternative for Harvard. ;)</p>
<p>I'm a HS freshman and I totally get it. My mom's more mellow, but still pushy. My dad's a horror. Not only is he overprotective, but also way too pushy. My brother had to deal with it and now I do. Except for the fact my brother was a genius and me not so much. I had to take SAT in 8th grade. He completely stresses me with the all A's talk and having to study sooo much.</p>
<p>I guess my parents aren't very Asian. Of course they want me get A's but they wouldn't freak out if I got B's. I wasn't allowed to take classes (e.g., piano, Chinese, etc.) as a child because they thought it'd be a waste of money. There were times when I felt so deprived as a child... Meh.</p>
<p>Lol, my parents are Hispanic, but they act Asian in the educational aspects.</p>
<p>Has your father not heard of Stanford, MIT, Caltech, Berkeley, Duke, Northwestern, Rice, etc?</p>
<p>God, this thread makes me sad. My parents are Korean but they give me so much freedom. It is my own motivation that pushes me to do my best. They are Asian parents but definitely do not fit into some of the descriptions in here.</p>
<p>he does it cause he loves you...</p>
<p>No seriously, I tutor kids whose parents don't know what grade there kid is in. Better to have a parent that can and wants to send you to a top notch university. So stop whining and realize that you will probably thank your father when you can provide your children with the same quality of life he managed to provide you.</p>
<p>haha my dad is strict when it comes to grades but hes not like gonna kill me if i dont get into an ivy. im first generation in the US and it sort of sucks because my dad thinks I have to limit my social life to do good in HS (and life practically). i have a decent social life but i dont like the fact that if I told him I had no friends he wouldnt care and would just say "good, more time to study, thats your only job".</p>
<p>My parents don't care at all. They ask about grades sometimes but they can sympathize if I can't do straight As (b/c of AP classes). They keep talking about outside activities though... it's so annoying. I don't like doing stuff outside of my house but my dad keeps talking about how I should join this and join that. What's the point of joining things if I don't even like them. He should just accept who I am and not constantly attempt to put his image into me.</p>
<p>Well I'm not asian, but rather full on white. My father is a twenty-year veteran from the United States Coast Guard. When I was just a baby, he gave up the idea of going back to school to do other part-time jobs so my Mother could get her degree in Communications at a Community College in California (They were both originally from Florida and she had only an associates in Theatre). My Parents struggled to keep our family afloat, as at the time money was ultra tight. My Dad ended up getting transferred back to Florida, where we live now. My Mom did amazing in the Housing Market but we pretty much lost everything, espicially when WaMu when belly up, even though she was a smart investor. My Sister ended up failing/leaving Georgia Tech and now has an Associates Degree in Liberal Arts from Community College. My Immediate family, some don't even hold a High School Diploma. The only other person with a College Degree besides my mom and sister is my Cousin, who's now currently in Medical School. </p>
<p>Because my sister did poorly at Georgia Tech, and we are pretty much back where we were when I was a baby, minus anyone in my family currently employed. I have dreams of going to Cornell, Drexel, Oxford...etc. Even UF would be amazing. But my parents already assume that though I'm trying so hard in High School like my sister did, I'm just going to end up failing wherever I go out of State, so they don't even want to hear about any school not in Florida. I feel like I'm kinda trying too hard to get nothing.</p>
<p>lol, most asian parents are like that. I think they do it so they can brag about their children to their adult friends. My brother last year got D's and B's, while me and my sister got straight A's, when we have family reunions, its always my name and my sisters name that comes up. "oh my daughter dreams of going to Stanford, she has straight A's you know". I feel sorry for my brother, at time I feel like he is depress. Its not that he's dumb, its just that he is into video games and computer geek stuff; the only A he got last year was art animation.</p>
<p>A = average
B = bad
C = crap
D = death
F = you know the word</p>
<p>you and me and hundreds of thousands of people in US is asian. You just gotta deal with it. I am sure 90%+ asian parents are like yours (mine included).</p>
<p>^^Roflz!!!!!</p>
<p>It's because education is part of the 5000 year old Chinese culture and civilization. That's why so many Asian parents are so stressed and pushy about getting into "Hah-vahd Stanfahd Yall Princetown"</p>
<p>wow, don't you guys realize that by posting this thread, you're just stereotyping asians even more?</p>
<p>the bottom line is that not all asian parents are like that. gosh.</p>
<p>If I had the stats I still wouldn't apply to Harvard. Something about it just repulses me. I'd rather attend Stanford or MIT.</p>
<p>My parents are asian and they tell me I should go wherever. I already have two sisters at "no-name" colleges. That said, I myself want to go to Harvard - Whenever I tell my parents that, they ask me why I have to make this whole college thing hard for myself. Less pressure from both you and your parents is better for wherever your applying...</p>
<p>I guess my parents aren't very Asian. Of course they want me get A's but they wouldn't freak out if I got B's. I wasn't allowed to take classes (e.g., piano, Chinese, etc.) as a child because they thought it'd be a waste of money. There were times when I felt so deprived as a child... Meh.</p>
<p>I can totally empathize.. now everybody's a fantastic dancer/singer, great athlete/musician, and I have no talents whatsoever.</p>
<p>old story, but relevant: asian american girls 15-24 have the highest suicide rate of any ethnicity for that age group. </p>
<p>Push</a> to achieve tied to suicide in Asian-American women - CNN.com</p>