<p>what's her issues on you being a stockbrocker, anyway? if she agrees with lawyers, then why not the former?</p>
<p>Oh, and it's not like I want to go some stupid JC. I told her I wanted to go to NYU or the University of Michigan and she flipped, and told me "That's not good enough." Coincidentally, that would be the upper reaches of my college list. I want to go to Tufts (just a dream-but worth trying) or the University of Michigan, and I think she would FLIP if she finds out I've been on their mailing list forever because "It's not famous. Therefore it's not good." </p>
<p>I definitely have a feeling she's against NYU because a lot of econ majors and Finance majors from NYU end up in investment banking, and it's pretty well regarded in that sphere, though I'm convinced she has no idea what investment banking is.</p>
<p>OK. Done ranting. That feels good.</p>
<p>"my parents are typical chinese parents. and most of the time they see other friends/relatives' kids always better than their own kid. what i hear most often from them is "look at blahblahblah's kid, and look at you!" ... "blahblahblah's kid got straight As, and you?!" ..."</p>
<p>It does happen to me too. Although Ive made it clear that I dont give a tinkers toot.
The thing is I really dont care. In India there are 3 boards (major). ICSE, CBSE and State board. I was in ICSE and now CBSE and bot are reasonably tough (see my school :)).
Stateboard, which a good part of my family is in is wayyyyy easier and each year 20000 people score 1200/1200 marks.
So, comparing raw is pointless and hence I survive...</p>
<p>I guess I'll probably be the most liberal asian parent. I've been brough up in an environment where my mom pushed me so much she actually pushed me over the cliff of tolerance and now I've become tacitly uncontrollable. </p>
<p>I'll just teach them good values and the value of education, but if they want to become real estate agents right out of high school, so be it. I can't force them to go to Harvard. Besides, I've seen so many real estate agents who never went to college and became very successful. If they want to do something, I'll do everything in my power to support them, as long as it's not illegal, and encourage them to pursue their passions, whether that be medicine or art history because if one likes medicine, one should study medicine, and practice medicine and if one likes art history, one should study art history, and do something related to art history.</p>
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Sounds like one heck of a party...
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Yes, because we were basically beating each other up while drunk.</p>
<p>Back to the topic...
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She thinks anyone who's not a doctor won't be successful. She tries to pin me into becoming a doctor EVEN IF I CLEARLY told her that I DON'T want to be a doctor, or study science in college, but SHE WON'T LISTEN. She's still insistent about it. I don't even talk to her anymore about course selections, or what I'm going to do in college. I'm just going to major econ and go into investment banking, and when she finds out, it'll be too late for her to do anything about it.
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Just tell her if you ever became a doctor, you are going to work for charity and make ****. And at the same time, she will pay your med school loans because it was the choice that SHE MADE. That should put an end to the argument.</p>
<p>my parents fail miserably as asian parents. wha ever happnd to caring about their son's education? they let me stay out after 2 on school nights, join them and their soap operas knowing i have exams the next morning, reward me with a car if i scored a 1500 on the old sat (never did, but i still got a car), though they did always made me vacuum my room once a week. does that count?</p>
<p>because they liked seeing my name printed in those school newsletters for honor roll standing (honor roll from my school went up to "All As and only 3 Bs"..haha), they pushed me a little in middle school and compared me to those stereoptypical asian students, i assumed cus their frinds probably asked about me..haha, so they wanted sumthing about me to show off? so this was all a long time ago. Upon entering high school, i guess they were just too old or too lazy to breath fire down my neck at every opportunity. I was playing 5 hours of starcraft on final nights, "go to sleep soon.." and they rather me fail a test than compromise my health (meaning sleep is most important). 2 years ago, my mom and dad must have really not cared anymore, sending me, their only child, off to a college campus, living in dormitories far away from home (still earning my high school diploma).-_- yea I still dun understand why they let me loose, freedom from all those dirty dishes and hanging laundry on clothes lines. so i had i to learn to manage my own time and find motivation to study, i easily culd have flunked out of school, the choice to skip class or put off studying to the last night was super tempting. but heh.. i am attending cornell university next semester, nothing my parents wuld have ever dreamed of, though they did casually remark, "it would be nice for you to go to stanford" </p>
<p>i guess my point is its not so much how much ur parents push u, if u are resolute about not studying, they really cant force u to. asian parents these days, especially immigrants, mostly of their background, try so hard to uphold the value of education. i bet many of them wuld eagerly take their sons and daughters places and go to school all over again..haha. that wuld be cool! but once college comes, its where the real challenge comes? whether your parents are the typical asian parents or whitewashed and relaxed, it doesnt matter once u are on ur own.</p>
<p>"It seems that most Asian parents want to live their dreams through their child"</p>
<p>I agree. My mom wants my sister to become a newscaster even though she already decided she wants to be a lawyer, just because she couldn't become one. She wants me to become a doctor after many attempts to reason with her and to knock some sense into her because she wants the last of my sanity. (LOL) Now that it's pretty clear that I won't be a doctor (even though she makes hints about the fact that she wants me to become a doctor-EVEN THOUGH it will never happen for as long as I live) my mom's badgering my 11-year-old syster. But what can I say, I've got to save myself first. </p>
<p>On top of that, she comes with control-freakiness. Not just about my career choice, but about really little lifestyle items like how I wear my hair (she wants it short, I want to keep it long-well I tried reaching a middle ground and it turned out hideous-I'm never getting my hair cut ever again.), whether I should eat my eggs with ketchup or not (who really cares? Eggs with no ketchup is like french fries with no salt-It simply doesn't work), how clean my room is, etc. I've had enough of her control-freakiness. It's so frustrating. </p>
<p>I'm basically beyond reasoning with her now. If there's something I don't want to do, I just don't. I don't tell her anything anymore, and I hide things from her. It's like a game of cat and mouse. I go hide in my mousehole of a room, and she comes in and tries to drag me out.</p>
<p>I've had similar nit-picky-critical experience. My mom yelled at me for eating with my left hand instead of my right, and once refused to drive me to church because I hadn't brushed my hair well enough. <em>le sigh</em></p>
<p>Haha. I'm left handed too. She doesn't yell at me, but she forced me to write with my right hand, and that's why I can't write fast. To my brain, it's counterintuitive to write with my right hand, since I was born left-handed. I don't even go to church anymore. Anytime I can avoid being with my mom, I choose not to be around her because every time I'm with her, she lambasts my choice to go into investment banking instead of medicine, and other things. </p>
<p>But seriously, what do asian parents have against left-handed people?</p>
<p>Poor children. I pity all of you as much as I pity myself.</p>
<p>wow these are some serious issues, i thought I had it bad....</p>
<p>I don't know. She has issues with me requesting information from various colleges OTHER than the ones she THINKS are good. She got mad at me for asking for a stamp to mail a thing to UW (Washington) because she thinks it's bad. But then, she thinks UT's better than UC. In fact she thinks UT's the best state school. Pshaw. She speaks condescendingly about Michigan and NYU. Weird.</p>
<p>Since I was seven years old or so..My typical asian parents wanted me to go to Harvard and made me study math and science for hours everyday and thought humanities and english were an absolute waste of time...Its hilarious how i turned out. I hate math and science and love humanities and english..my parents think I'm never going to get a job and i'm going to be a homeless bum...</p>
<p>wow, lol i thought my parents were nuts but it sounds like everyone's are too....</p>
<p>odd thing is, my parents care more about how much they're gonna have to pay than where i go - i mention a school and they're just like, so, "you getting a scholarship?" so they're convinced i'm going to end up @ berkeley (in state) - although it's the last place on earth that i would ever want to go, esp. since my sister goes there and its like crazyy AZN competition, and uber-grade deflation...</p>
<p>and i love how they totally think i'm retarded, and try to demotivate me in whatever way possible - if i ever to say something like "hey amma i want to go to _____" she would be like "its one thing to get in and another to graduate...think about your gpa, you need to get into med school after all" and then being indian is terrrrible since they make connections between medicine and marriage, since it would make arranged marriages 100x easier for them if i was an MD, psh that</p>
<p>oh, and you gotta love the indian parents who bring up the stories about their childhood and how they walked like 10 miles to go to school and how they worked like 6 jobs while in college to pay for it all</p>
<p>prabz, me too, berkeley's the last place i'd want to go!!</p>
<p>when i moved to the u.s., i was misled into thinking science and math were my strength(because everyone said so. but back in china, i SUCKED at math). now, i've come to realize that i will major and minor in the humanities. that's what i like. but of course, non of my parents are like yours. if they were, i'd be better off with better grades.</p>
<p>prabz--> woahh... our parents are the same. they go on this long supposedly heartwarming speech about how they used to save all they got and blah to go to schoo and stuff whenever they get the chance (mainly during quarterly tests)</p>
<p>ihate ca, i wholeheartedly agree. my mom forced me to use my right hand!</p>
<p>ihateCA---> yes yes, just let it all out. :D feels good, ne?</p>