<p>Don't know how many current Pepperdine students read this, but I need some quick advice. First off all, I'm going to be a grad student for the next two years at Pepperdine; I'm 22 and I went to a huge party school for undergrad. I know about the whole drinking policy and stuff, but I just went through the Graduate Student Handbook for the first time tonight and came across a hilarious little entry about not having opposite-sex guests over.</p>
<p>Now, my girlfriend and I were planning on her staying with me quite a few times during the school year -- I'm going to school 46 hours from where we live. What are the odds that a) An RA is actually strict enough to monitor what graduate students are doing to enforce this policy? b) anything severe happens (like I lose housing -- I'm living in Drescher)? c) anything happens at all?</p>
<p>I don't want to lose housing over something as asinine as an opposite-sex not-allowed-in-dorms-after-a-certain-time policy, but there is zero chance I go two years (or two months) without actually seeing her.</p>
<p>I’ve heard of students at the undergrad college, Seaver, get suspended for the semester or even kicked out for it. I doubt the policy would be any more lenient for grad, premarital sex goes against the university’s Christian mission.</p>
<p>The curfew is 1AM for having the opposite sex in the room. I mean, you could have her come visit and stay at a nearby hotel, or spend the night at a female friend’s place.</p>
<p>That was about the answer I was expecting too. I’m looking at hotel deals that aren’t ungodly expensive for a weekend right now (like, less than $120 a night; if that’s possible; I might invest in the ZipCar thing and drive an hour or two out of the way if I have to). </p>
<p>Worst comes to worst, I start panhandling and scrounge up enough to take a vacation somewhere. I’m almost certain I’m about to become the poorest person at Pepperdine.</p>
<p>They are pretty strict, SLA’s should not report however, it is the RA’s responsibility. You will make off campus friends…spend the night there when you have a guest.</p>
<p>My D was the poorest on campus…so we can pass the bar to you now that she has graduated!</p>
<p>I’m a current student and honestly the RAs are a lot less strict on Drescher and in other upperclassmen housing (like Lovernich) than in the freshmen dorms and it’s a totally different environment. I know plenty of people who had alcohol in their apartments while living in Drescher in addition to members of the opposite sex staying over without their RAs knowing/ writing them up. This isn’t to say that it isn’t against university rules and I for one would not want to risk it, but I know a handful of people who got away with a lot while living in Drescher because the RAs just don’t come around as much as they do in the freshmen dorms (living in Drescher your RA might stop by a few times a semester but that’s about it unless there’s any complaints or if it gets out that you’re breaking the rules). And a note about the Zip Cars- they run for about $8 an hour so you will probably want to borrow a friend’s car instead.</p>
<p>Hopefully my future roommates are cool enough to let it slide by, that’s all I’m really worried about. And posting about it on the Internet. . .I’m sure someone will read this and figure out who I am =P</p>
<p>The other thing is. . .what if we’re “asleep” at midnight. Do the RAs have the right to come into a locked room to check or is that part of their power?</p>
<p>Sorry for all the questions, I chose Pepperdine because of the academics and because they had professors I really wanted to work with for my master’s (academically, this is my absolute dream school) but now I’m starting to think I just absolutely killed my social life by doing so.</p>
<p>If they have reason to suspect you’re breaking the rules, I’m pretty sure they can key in, but I doubt they’ll randomly come in to check without reason.</p>
<p>Last year I had a guy in my room just past the curfew (a group of us had been watching a movie and lost track of time), and the RA happened to by walking by when we were checking to see if the hallway was clear. She glimpsed him in the mirror just inside my door before it shut. So she knocked on the door, said loudly that she was keying in, then unlocked it before we got the chance to open it from the inside.</p>
<p>That happened while I was living in Towers, by the way; everyone involved just got a warning.</p>
<p>This information is great. Thanks guys. The part I’m worried about is if they ask her to leave. . .she has nowhere to go.</p>
<p>We’ve been talking about this (she was going to stay for a week in the fall and a couple of weeks in the winter, but now this doesn’t look too plausible) and we think we might just go to New Orleans instead. The flight’ll probably cost the same amount as a hotel would (and I’ve got places to stay in NOLA for free) and missing a few days of class would be a lot better than losing a year of housing.</p>
<p>Ahhh, thought I posted something about the roommate situation, but I guess I didn’t. The other reason why I think leaving would be better would be to get out of their hair. I don’t want to be imposing on them either (though, I don’t know them); I doubt they’ll want her wandering around the place.
Everything’ll work out, I’m just glad y’all gave me a bit more insight.</p>