Guy in Spanish class hits on me...

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>It's creepy and stalker-ish, yet at the same time sweet and endearing...</p>

<p>This boy in my Spanish class, Steve, a.k.a. Sergio has been obsessed with me since Spanish IV H last year, and I have NO idea why. I mean, we are polar opposites--I'm reserved and bookish and he is gregarious and sociable. Plus, he's around 6'5'', and I am 5'3''. Why ME of all people?? </p>

<p>For exmaple, last year our class was doing this arts and crafts sort of activity. He gave me a fuzzy, red pipe-cleaner ring ("anillo"), and ** proposed to me in front of the entire class. ** It was pretty embarassing, but flattering all the same. And then...he called me "Carmen del Sol, Amor de mi Vida" (Carmen of the Sun, Love of my Life) and said that for our honeymoon, we'd go to the "orilla del mar" (means the beach--reference to a play we read in class) with the "gazpacho of death" (reference to a movie we watched in class) near at hand. And he follows me in the hallway and tells silly jokes for example:</p>

<p>"Spain is a dangerous country. People are Castille-ing things all over the place. Did I mention I have two cars there? One's got gas, but I need to Phillip II." hehehehe... :D</p>

<p>And, Sergio wrote an pretty long entry in my yearbook, where he made the tired old references to Carmen del Sol, gazpacho of death, Spain jokes, etc. and at the end, he wrote "Save the last dance for me" and drew a little heart with and "SH + RS" in it. And on the last day of class, he asked to tango with me.</p>

<p>Yeah, I know. He's quite the subtle and understated lover. And now I have to deal with his quirky behaviors in AP Spanish this year. Do you think he's just a weirdo stalker or bf material?</p>

<p>Any help would be greatly appreciated.</p>

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<p>Is it just me, or does he already think you are his girlfriend?</p>

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<p>He THINKS I am his freaking WIFE!
He'd definetely make an interesting friend (good sense of humor, lol :) ) but I'm not exactly sure if he'd make good bf material, since we are so different in personality.</p>

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<p>lol, does he have a reputation as the class clown? because that's what i'm sensing instead of "creepy stalker." this could be his way of expressing interest or he's just joking around. i'd say play along and make up a worse nickname for him and see where it goes.</p>

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<p>Well, I would say he is joking with you as much as hitting on you. I wouldn't worry about it.</p>

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<p>pssh give the guy a chance..he seems like a pretty decent and outgoing guy. i was actually in the same situation as you last year lol. i was pretty quiet and kept to myself and only talked to my really close friends. there was a guy named chris who liked me and was pretty obvious about it. he would butt into my conversations and whenever i look over, he would be staring back at me and so forth. he was also the loud type and was super outgoing. total opposites. anyways i didnt want anything to do with him because i didnt know if he would make a good bf and also cuz everyone would think it would be wierd if we went out ( i shouldnt have cared). months went by, and finally junior prom rolled up and we decided to split the ticket price but def. not go together (however, by this time, i kinda liked him but was lying to myself haha). we danced pretty much the whole night and it was magical (haha gosh i sound so corny)..anyways the next day while i was waitressing, he called my cell and asked me out, and i said yes and i was all smiles the whole day. that was april 24, so weve been going out for about 10 months. over that time, weve both rubbed off each other and were pretty alike now...knowing what the other is thinking/feeling, etc..</p>

<p>anyways what im trying to say is, maybe you should go out with sergio cuz he might make a great bf eventhough you guys are total opposites. :)</p>

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<p>I don't know if you would get offended by this, but a guy in my class did the exact same thing to this one girl and he was just kidding arround, he never really did like her he just thought it would be funny to lead her on.....just look out for that!, poor girl she was really heart-broken</p>

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<p>^That is terrible! How could someone be so mean?</p>

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<p>He's probably just having fun with you, you know? It could be a crush, or it could just be a sense of fun, you know? Either way, it's flattering. Unless he is out to be mean, which it doesn't sound like. Take it as flattery unless you get a real reason not to. :)</p>

<p>As for being polar opposites - trust me, they attract. ;)</p>

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<p>oHHHHh i know alot of people who'd do that</p>

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<p>there was this girl that did something like that to me... and when i asked her out on valentines day she rejected me. it was flattering thoguh.</p>

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<p>He's giving you attention, that means that he likes you a little bit at least... jeez don't be so quick to call names.</p>

<p>Or if youre feeling really evil, you could egg him on and then crush his heart at the last moment >:-O</p>

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<p>That's really sweet. I say you give the guy a chance. I think one of the most attractive/flattering things for people is when they're just sitting there being themselves and not even trying like you, and someone like this Sergio notices you and and actively pursues you and thinks of all these cute ways to make you smile. You have got to like a guy who knows how to reference!</p>

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<p>I don’t know but I think this guy is just playing with you. How could this Steve propose to you in front of the whole class? If he were seriously, he would not humiliate you like that in front of the entire class. I would run away from him as quick as possible</p>

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<p>opposites attract</p>

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<p>Lol...How CAN I run away from him? He sits right behind me in AP Spanish class practically everyday. So just avoiding him is out of the question.</p>

<p>I doubt he's manipulating me or setting me up for heartbreak--having known him for the past two years, he really doesn't seem like that sort of person. And I didn't think he intended to humiliate me in front of the class when he proposed to me and gave me his pipe-cleaner ring. He must have been trying to express his interest in a very blunt or overt way, or just to be funny. </p>

<p>And his corny jokes and references to bad Spanish plays/films still make me laugh. :D</p>

<p>And yes, he has a reputation for being the class clown, so I'm not sure if all of his flattering remarks are too sincere. Perhaps if I get to know him better, I'll see he serious side!</p>

<p>fhshortie08, I'm glad things have worked out between you and Chris despite the different personalities. Perhaps I could ask Sergio to senior prom...although at this point I feel awkward around him and wouldn't know what to say. Oh well--I have 2.5 months to brush up on my social skills.</p>

<p>Thanks for the advice guys. :)</p>

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<p>If you want to go to prom with him, you should probably hook up with him soon, so you guys can get to know each other better and you'll feel more comfortable with him by the time prom rolls around. </p>

<p>And its always flattering and a great ego boost (lol) to go out with a guy who really likes you and goes to great lengths to show it. i hope everything goes well :)</p>

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<p>OH ELBERETH!!!!</p>

<p>I've had a stalker guy for ...let's see... 6 years now!</p>

<p>That's right, since 7th grade. Except mine was really serious bc when I got a bf in 11th grade he cried and then said he needed to speak with me. So I arranged a meeting and he told me he'd love me forever and be jealous of the guy who I'd eventually end up with.</p>

<p>Some guys are just...too emotional. If you don't like him, then don't do anything about it...unless it really bothers you then tell him. Really - just be straightforward!</p>

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<p>meh...Sergio definetely is not "overly emotional". "Overly crazy" would be closer to the mark, lol. </p>

<p>It's not that I don't like him, it's just that it would be strange being in a relationship with someone so different from me. Or being in a relationship period, since I've only been friends with boys, and nothing more up to this point. He's a sweet, even chivalrous guy, and I appreciate the great lengths he goes to express how he feels. </p>

<p>And even if he's joking, I'd still be flattered by all the attention he lavishes on me. I've never been treated like this before in my life!</p>

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<p>haha this reminds me of an awful story. i had a stalker this past year, a literal stalker. besides the usual calling me every night repeatedly, randomly asking to come over etc he begged me to hang out once. so i did, and the kid drove drunk!! then he brougth his friends with pot.. i dont know what he was smoking (literally) but i wont allow the people i associate with to drive drunk..thats just not cool. we were never going out and he goes to another school, but hes been telling people im his ex girlfriend, im sorry i thought it took two people to agree to establish a relationship. not to mention he pronounces my name wrong, and hes crazy. he has a girlfriend now, which is good, but he told her he loved her after they went out for a week! and then after i stopped talking to him for driving intoxicated, he started calling me out on stuff since i was a "female dog" and he came to my house!! who does that??<em>sigh</em> why cant guys just grow up? </p>

<p>but for your situation, i completely understand what you are going through.. ive never dated anyone before, so maybe i was just not used to the constant flattery, compliments, touchyfeelyness (but i thought it was majorly weird too). haha, but enjoy the attention unlesss he goes to great lengths to be a crazy kid. thats when you might want to smack him.</p>