Not really looking for definitive relationship advice, because I’m not really in a relationship as of yet.
So yeah, here goes:
A gorgeous Italian foreign exchange student walks in to my Spanish class and sits next to me. I don’t say anything because I don’t why the heck she’s sitting there. Spanish teacher announces that we have a foreign exchange student from ITALIA, land of the beauty. I go mental because not many beautiful and genuine Italian girls sit next to you everyday, and somehow I’m not nervous at all (I’ve found kryptonite after all). A few minutes of class pass and I make my move and get to know her as well as tell her how things work here (all in Spanish) internally thanks Spanish teacher for all those oral assignments. Her Spanish is mellifluous and brilliant; she’s taken less Spanish than me and knows the language inside out and even corrects my mistakes (probably due to her Italian fluency). I talk, compliment her, and ask where she’s from and what not. We have laughs, I like this girl, like a lot! Class ends, I say goodbye. I forgot her name and her classes, ¡mierda!
I go home and all I can think about is her, it’s crazy; I’ve even caught myself daydreaming during class. She’s so simple but just so awesome, not like the typical American girls at my school that are anorexic, dress very inappropriately, and are just plain old dumb. She’s intelligent, very pretty, and muy amable.
The next day arrives; I practice some Spanish pick-up lines. She doesn’t arrive; her classes got switched because she swtiched from regular to honors Chem. NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, I curse myself and am devastated! Her Spanish class is now the one after mine and I can’t see her right after because my Chem class is far away (the irony!). My only chance is ruined, damn; God surely has it in for me. I go home and do my homework like a proper masochist. After that, I decide that I need advice, and I get on College Confidential, the BEST choice for relationship advice, eh?
How do I get this girl or should I just focus on my AP exams like the proper student?
I don’t know much about relationships (actually, nothing at all), but you should talk to her between classes, maybe get her number and see what happens
Focus on exams. Before you know it, she will be gone and you will never see her again. You are attracted to the unknown. Her language is what is really driving your emotions. Pretend she is American and move on.
If it was meant to be, it would have been meant to be. Take it from me; when the odds are not working in your favor, then it wasn’t meant to be. I know it seems hard, even downright impossible, but you need to try and move on from the situation. You’re just having a big crush on her, but those things are temporary. Time won’t make the heart grow fonder in this case; the less you see her, you’ll start to properly move on.
I know how you feel LOL except I’m a girl, but we all have feelings, so it’s okay. I get it. You mostly enjoyed the fact she wasn’t like other girls because she was foreign and exotic… those feelings will pass in due time. It’s pretty hard to see her anymore so it’s obviously not meant to work…
If anything happens and you want to talk about it, you can always message me. I have way experience in these things than I should or even want to have and I’m fine with helping anyone who needs it.
These responses are great and funny. I think her Italian-ness is fairly attractive but there’s so much more to her that I admire. I think for the most part I’ll either keep to my own and say hi once in a while, but I can try if I get hints. I have 5 AP’s to focus on and @Madison85, I’m already in Honors lol, just diff periods.
A friend of mine in high school was an international student and later in life married someone she met at that time who was from another foreign country, so you just never know.
@justonedad - I usually do, but I was completely unnerved with her; it was fantastic. I just don’t know where to find other than outside my Spanish class and I’m not sure if she even has an American phone number because she arrived 2 days ago! However, I will say that I don’t mess about. I know someone will attempt to steal her and I can’t let that happen. Perhaps, it’s just the adrenaline that I’m feasting in my blood like @SallyStephens said, as the hormone signals are transmitted throughout my cells.
OMG. He’s spouting poetry, too. Or whatever a Chem student has that passes for poetry. You know where she has Chemistry. Find her outside a class. Tell her your future in Spanish depends on it.
OP, you might want to let your hormones chill out. Think. What is it you want from this girl? A real relationship or just a good lay? Is she staying in the U.S. or is she just here for a brief period?
The eternal struggle. I’d say go for the girl. You’re only in high school once, and what are you going to remember? The amazing Italian girl, or studying for AP exams? Besides, even if you have a few tests to take, you should still have at least some free time, unless, you know, you’re as insane as I am. Anyhow, good luck!
Just say hi her to her strike up a conversation. Would your chemistry teacher be extremely mad if you were late one time? Ask her if she has a phone number and talk about maybe studying together. Also if you have any social media you could add her on those (if she has them as well
Slightly pausing at the description of the girls at your school. “Anorexic” and “dress inappropriately”? First of all, anorexia is a serious mental and physical condition which shouldn’t be dismissed or joked about. People who have it are seriously afflicted.
“Dress inappropriately”… This just seemed like a little bit slut-Shamey to me. Why does it matter to you how girls dress? How they dress has nothing to do with their morality.
Sorry if this comes off as brash, but I’ve been accused and called anorexic before when in truth I simply cannot gain weight. Additionally, I have serious offense with people who judge women simply by their looks.
As for the girl you like, simply approach her and talk to her. Women really really like confidence.
