Has anyone ever felt like that their parent(s) said the wrong thing with a rejection

<p>I just got rejected from Penn and I feel so bad right now. At this point I really wanted to be alone, but my mom(like any other parent) offered her shoulder for support...I told her that I would rather just be alone and not talk at the moment. Still, what comes out of her mouth.... </p>

<p>"Well, you should have expected it since you knew we talked about you getting rejected."</p>

<p>" You probably won't get into the first choice school you applied to."</p>

<p>"Stop acting so emotional, you are being such a drama queen."</p>

<p>These statements didn't come consecutively, but through a conversation we had after learning about the rejection, though they all did occur in the past hour...</p>

<p>Let's just say...I am not in the happiest of moods...</p>

<p>Edit: Damn...I posted in the wrong forum...</p>

<p>I was upset with her, *but don't you dare call my mom a trick... *</p>

<p>Now, having a part time job and living in the suburbs excludes me from comprehending the language of the streets, such as it may be. What is the equivalent of 'trick' in English?</p>

<p>Trick is the equivalent of hoe.</p>

<p>Ah thank you for that translation.</p>

<p>No problem.</p>

<p>Eh, this isn't me. My friend's parents told her there was no shame in community college after she got waitlisted at Yale. She did get into G-town though, so good for her.</p>

<p>As for the dumb remarks of the parents, it was to be expected. They had no part in her applications process and really never cared much about her academic goals, sadly. But she'll be successful - is successful, even without their guidance.</p>

<p>well I hear from UGA tomorrow but I've already gotten into my second and third choice...</p>

<p>lol my dad came in my room tonight like:</p>

<p>"Son, have you been praying that you'll get accepted?"</p>

<p>yea I have been praying about it but...lmao...I began to laugh because he's taking it SO SERIOUSLY...I mean really...there's nothing I can do about it now but pray...and if God sees me being at another school then so be it...I'll be happy either way...</p>

<p>he only likes the school because of football anyway lol...</p>

<p>As a mom, I learned the hard way that there's only one thing to say when those thin envelopes come in..."I'm sorry." Followed by "I'm making (insert your favorite food here) for dinner."</p>

<p>As a daughter, I would feel the best answer would be, "I'm sorry. You want my credit card?" LOL.....I'm j/k :).</p>

<p>I don't know...I would just feel like talking too much about it would make it worse by reminding me that I did not get in.</p>

<p>When I got rejected from Stanford EA my mom told me she was glad because now I would have the opportunity to go to school in a city. That was a very bad thing to say after I got rejected, even months later when I had firmly settled on going to another college it would have been a very bad thing to say.</p>

<p>last year when i got rejected EA at Yale I was crying and a BIT emotional, and my mom told me to get myself together and stop pretending that I didn't know this was going to happen anyway.
She also said crying wasn't going to change the decision so I should stop and face disappointment like an adult.
But I wasn't an adult, I was 17 (maybe I had just turned 18, but I was still, and am still, just a kid)
It was very out of character for her, too curt.
Granted my expectations were too high, but she didn't give me my break-down-and-deal-with-it time. Its amazing how much one moment can affect you, I still think about it sometimes when I want to talk about what I am hoping for with her.
Sometimes silence is best.</p>

<p>my parents, esp my mom, have been kind of happy that i didn't get into HYP. but she doesn't really say anything about it unless i bring it up. so its nice.</p>

<p>my dad, though, wanted to read all my letters, which i didn't care for at all. like, what would he gain from that? and then he told me that he didn't ever really think it was anything but a longshot. which is true. and i acknowledge that and everything, but still. not fun.</p>

<p>"who needs yale?!" "you were accepted to dartmouth!"</p>

<p>:( sad sad world</p>

<p>My dad went down the "life's not fair" path and ended up at the "things happen for a reason." I understand that he's trying to get me to accept things as they come in life, but for a moment, I wish he'd stop being so preachy and just say, "I'm sorry to hear that." My mom didn't really say anything and said volumes by buying me cupcakes and pizza from my favorite local pizza store when I didn't get into UNC and UVA. I agree with the previous parent poster that said favorite food and I'm sorry was the best way to go. </p>

<p>It's not like my rejection letters weren't semi-expected, but that doesn't soften the blow any.</p>

<p>And as for the people who got the "stop being so emotional," blah, I got that too.</p>

<p>Yep I made a pact to myself never to tell my parents. They know I'm not going to tell them anything. They get ****ed sometimes but it's better for me in the end. They don't know where I was rejected or accepted.</p>

<p>I'm applying to college this year and I told my parents that I'm not going to let them know the decision dates, so they don't all ooh and ahh and evyerhting.. And I told them if i get rejected, not to talk to me at all. Because when i got sucky sat scores (lame i know) i wanted to be left alone. And i'm predicting that that's what I'll want then too.</p>

<p>I kinda want to go through the decision things alone..
I know my parents will try to cheer me up but I KNOW they're going to say the wrong things.</p>

<p>What's the right thing? Is there one?</p>

<p>Um my dad said the wrong thing. You didn't get into Penn? What! and then he just started rambling on and on...</p>

<p>I guess he expected me to get in when I didn't.</p>

<p>My mum handled it the best. When I got my rejection letter from one of my most cherished uni's, she read it, folded it up, smiled and said, "So this is a closed chapter now." Somehow it made me feel better. Oh and yeah I did get paneer-curry (my fav) that day. :)</p>