OP- practice saying two things:
1- Gee, that sounds challenging (or frustrating, depending on what it is)
2- I’m sure you’re going to work it out. You are so good at things like this.
It does your D no good to have you so 'in the loop" on things like where the toilet paper and dish detergent go, even if you think you’re helping your D by giving her a place to vent. This is why you want her in college- to transition from living in YOUR house, with your way of dealing with life, to living on her own, with perhaps a different (but no less valid) way of dealing with things.
As long as your D is not in danger from her roommates meth-deranged visitors, you will have a MUCH better year if you disengage. And your D will as well. Presumably she has a budget- so she knows that if she’s paying for throw pillows, she won’t have that money for pizza or movies later in the month. Let her work it out. It is empowering for a young person to navigate these kinds of issues on their own.