@sybbie719 Yes, you made assumptions. I am not sure how many people would post every single text they communicated, probably you should ask before drawing the conclusion. It was just a simple matter, a roommate decided to put her stuff to take up the cabinets, as someone mentioned, it is just basic courtesy. IMO, text or no text is irrelevant. The roommate asked to be reimbursed without prior discussion, whether my DD stayed in the dorm in the past few days, or met with the roommate is also irrelevant. (BTW, this is my DD’s third year in a dorm living, she began as a commuter in a boarding school but shared a room)
@blossom. I didn’t think your comments deserve an answer. But here it goes. There is nothing wrong for me to know where her toilet paper or the dish detergent go as I helped her to move in. While there, I had to go to the bathroom and it was difficult not to know where they put the toilet paper (and as you wrote, in the loop). I mentioned those items in an earlier post was to explain that regardless of whether there was any text message, the roommate would have known DD already have the stuff. In addition, there is nothing wrong for parents to give advice to their kids, we suggested her to pay and the decision is her. As we can see, there are posters who think it is okay to pay and there are posters who disagree, there are reasons with both. As a parent, I like my kids to see another opinion from me. You may have a different relationship with your kids (but that would be my assumption).
You are making another wrong assumption. I am not looking for support that the roommate is a terrible fit. It does not help DD to even remotely think that the roommate is a not a fit at this time. If the roommate is truly not a good fit, she should discover it for herself and not from me. (you may have thought differently for your kid, but it would be my assumption).