<p>There’s nothing wrong with remembering that you’re only human. I’m not saying you need to be that person who trusts everyone or the one who spills everything. That being said, I believe that you [subconsciously] are looking for reasons to push others away because of your perceptions. Also, the whole “sorority girl” idea is really interesting… probably because I am a girl. I noticed that you said a girl who happens to be pretty, social/popular, and one who always has something to do is preferable. Out of everyone I went to high school with/knew in high school, I’d say about half of my group joined sororities. All of my friends are gorgeous, though, and I’d say they’re all pretty outgoing too. The ones that decided to major in biochemistry, engineering, physics, and math are ironically the ones my friends as a whole were always jealous of. They didn’t choose to rush because of various reasons, but I know for a fact that they part as much as my friends who did. That being said, since you can’t join a fraternity, consider doing something philanthropic. It would be another way to meet the type of people you seem drawn to. Additionally, the service aspect might help you project yourself (fear of being needy?) in a productive manner that leads to balance.</p>
<p>I’m a freshman girl and I’d go out with you! You’re the kind of guy I would date. I’m in a sorority(rushed before 2nd semester started) but my personality is calm and collected, not high or low, like yours. I don’t see why you would feel unfulfilled. I think, for guys especially, there is no requirement to play the role of the stupid ******y guy who does stupid stuff for attention. Since you probably don;t want to rush, I’d just initiate more get togethers with the friends you do have. It’s ok if you can’t connect your friend groups, that just means you’re an individual, not a clone. Maybe you need a guys perspective as well, but the guys in the suite across the hall from me, for instance, casually hang out with each other, and do a few clubs and such, and find tons of weekend parties stemming from these clubs. Do the groups you’re involved with have celebratory parties?</p>
<p>Let me just say: you are not alone. I have felt many of the feelings and thoughts you expressed in your post. In high school, I had a small amount of friends. I thought that would change when I went to college, but its been practically the same. Many of my friends also come from different friend groups. Even though I have friends, none of them really know each other and hangout. I hope that someday it will be different, but for now, I will keep trying to go to school events and join clubs. Hopefully, both of our situations will improve.</p>
<p>I feel the exact same way you do-word for word. However, I’m a freshman in college. I go to one of the biggest party schools in the country-I don’t party. I don’t drink. I’m also straightedge. I don’t find the desire in me to do those kinds of things. </p>
<p>Every sentence you wrote, I could relate to. If anyone took a quick look at me, they would think I’m so self confident and fulfilled. But it’s just not always the case when you take a look at yourself. </p>
<p>Keep your head up, the real world after college will be more rewarding…at least that’s what I keep telling myself.</p>